I fell in love with a guy a while back and we went out for 3 years and even went overseas together. I gave up alot for him and i was completely faithful! However he was not, he cheated, lied and then ditched me for some bimbo chick!
Ive now realised that ever since we broke up, ive been such a *****! I want a relationship so bad and want to feel that feeling of being loved again, but ive noticed that i tend to find a guy who wants a relationship, i make him fall inlove with me, or i make him like me heaps and then purposly break his heart. But they seem to think the world of me and think im miss innocent its driving me crazy. How can i b faithful and just find one man who i realy like? How do i stop doing this to guys? Why am i doing this? I never use to be like this...
2007-03-26 23:33:39 · 15 answers · asked by louise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the reason to:
"i make him fall inlove with me, or i make him like me heaps and then purposly break his heart" is because you fear of being hurt again so you pull out quickly and at the same time you want to be loved....like a tug of war...
I suggest to take time off, you must do this, spoil yourself silly and have a ball of a time to boost up your confidnce... By taking some time of you will be able to approach a new relationship with confidence and make it last..
You are protecting yourself wich is important and healthy.....
2007-03-26 23:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say your afraid of someone doing the repeat of your ex boyfriend so you back away before any hurt is done to you. Just give your relationship a go and don't be stuck in the mindset that he will cheat and deceive you. Not all guys are like that, you may have just had a bad one and there are plenty of great guys out there! Don't let this bad experience ruin your life right now.
2007-03-26 23:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing this because you were hurt, and subconsciously you want to hurt other guys, just try to leave the past behind, it was an experience, good or bad, remember the good moments, memories, and start over....no one else has to suffer for what your ex did....give yourself a chance, you may be losing out on a terrific relationship....try to forgive, you will never forget, the good and the bad, but its in the past....look forward, never look back and you will find someone who will love you and make you forget Mr. wrong, we all go through this....its hard but I know you can do it. Give yourself a chance, I wish you luck and believe me if you can find it in your heart to forgive him, you will be a much happier person and won't be sabotaging your chances for a wonderful relationship.
2007-03-26 23:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u still havent moved on (it aint easy) , U keep pushing other ppl away by breaking their hearts coz ur afraid that ur heart might be broken again , u need to renew ur faith in others. (also aint easy ) u need to lower ur guard that dosent mean let it all the way down. Figure out how to reasonably lower ur guard, others cant tell u how to do it so its all p to u.
PS- Cheer up , i bet a smile on ur face/avatar will help u feel and look better
2007-03-26 23:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by ssuasw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make some good friends and be happy.
I was the same once and I found the right guy. Just be happy and try being happy. CHANGE YOUR AVATAR AND BE CHEERFUL AND THAT IS THE FIRST STEP FOR BECOMING A WINNER.
2007-03-26 23:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i have had a guy hurt me before i was still young thou but i have been in this relationship for 8 years now and i look at all the bad things going on and i cant help but think it was me i never drank i never gammbled i never smoked pot i was perfect at least people thought i was one thing i dident do was build fun in the family i keept him at home i didnt like to go enywere nore him i did lots of funny things this is after he hurt me also just after i had my second child about 2 weeks he went out and sleept with another slutbag i was so brocken and from then onwards i have been so closed up on things and tryed to keep him hidden i no i should have throwen him to the curve but my heart chose not to what im saying hurt from loving someone can make us do silly things like i think you are trying to get revenge or even backing out from your relationships before they hurt you but hay we all get hurt and we all hurt someone sometime or another its just apart of learning i am now still with this guy and things between us are ok and just ok i have no trust i have no faith but i have love and thats somthing that wont let me let go i gess you really need to test drive before you buy i feel your hurt still taments you and you really were inlove with that guy sometimes the best thing is to try to move on and alowe another ones love to help hide the hurt you will love again but the trust thing will always be there even if its a different guy try to space yourself from the past and get intouch with yourself again before dateing its not as eaisy as 1 2 3 but it will happen loving yourself is far eaiser then loving somoneelse first then share it again to fair the pain of love again is not explainable its just u have to trust yourself to trust again hope i have been of help hope things get better for you good luck
2007-03-27 00:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok as for 1 thing your not an *****, u never saw it coming, not your fault, you thot u really had something strong, i wud to if i was in a relationship like that, 2nd of all you just have to wait for your perfect man, and dont go after up if u just want them for there looks or something, u shud really get to no them before u decide if u shud like them or not
2007-03-26 23:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling...Even me I've asked myself why I'm doing it?!The thing is,i think that we try to protect ourself from pain...it's not good,but we need to go over it!Now i find someone,and I'm sure you will find to!think twice if you want to have a relation with a guy!if one was a ******* that doesn't mean that all the boys are the same!:)
good luck
2007-03-26 23:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by sauvage 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think u are mistreating all this guys because u sort of view them like ur ex or probably u just want to get back at guys..
now u should slowly re think, mediate and control..
2007-03-26 23:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by Roxy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey kim... dont worry.. wht u are doing is wrong... dont think that all men are same like the men ditched u.... just be cool and make good friends to get rid of all ur old memo...
2007-03-26 23:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by Racingred 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋