Can anyone tell me the details on how to go about a divorce when married to someone in the military? For example, will we have to be seperated for a period of time first? Get couseling? Is JAG their just to look out for their soldier and kick my *** to the curb? We live in Germany...I had to quit my damn job and drop out of nursing school just to come over to this hole. So now I feel trapped, like how the hell can I afford to fly to the US and start a new life from scratch? Any info would be great.
2007-03-26 23:32:14 · 8 answers · asked by ava g 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I just wanted to thank you for answering my question so understandingly.As a veteran myself,I knew the sacrafices I was going to have to make to marry a soldier.I am upset because I have to start from scratch,scared and confused.I am NOT leaving my husband because he brought me over here,although,I miss the states and my independance very much.Yes,it takes a special person to be a military wife.One that is willing to be labeled a dependant,to volunteer, to stand in the background while her man moves up the career ladder.My husband however is mentally and physically abusive.He has no respect for me or my family.I live in constant fear,as you never know when he will explode next.But I love him.This saddens me.I thought for 6 years that he would change,but it is time for me to try and stand on my own and rebuild my self esteem.If you are belittled and called names for so long,you eventually begin to believe it.I 'd also like to say that I'm the proud sister of an AF man,currently deployed
2007-03-28 23:07:09 · update #1
Wow.. it sounds like you think everyone is out to get you.
JAG is not there to kick you to the curb. That's not what they do. You watch too many t.v. shows.
You have to be separated for a period of time, you need a lawyer, and you need to pay for yourself to get back to The States. As for "how the hell" can you afford to start a new life from scratch... that's no one's problem but your own. Don't cry to the army about it.
Germany's a "hole"? Wow, you ARE bitter.
Good luck with all that.
2007-03-27 02:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by fredonia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The military has no rules about how to get a divorce as that is purely a civilian matter and occurs in the civilian courts. As such the rules vary depending on the state you file for divorce in. I know JAG can offer advice so I suggest you go get some there. Especially since your case is complicated by being in a foreign country.
Also, don't be afraid to take advantage of any counseling options you have through the military. It's so much better to find a way to work things out if you can.
2007-03-27 12:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like one of those wives that gets all pissy when they have to leave home to go overseas. Don't take your inability to adapt out on your husband. They generally have no choice as to where they are stationed. You must be absolute idiot if you think Germany is a hole". Are you one of those fraidy cat wives who never go off-base? We lived in Germany for 4 years. Loved every minute, met and still have some wonderful German friends. maybe you neede to go back to your mama and grow up a little. did you not forsee moving around when you married into the military? We all gave up something in our lives for the men we marry. I had to quit Law School so seriously, grow up!
JAG is there to help EVERYONE not just the military member. They are very professional and they would be more than happy to assist you in getting out of there if that's what you want. I pity your husband to live with such a whiny *****!
2007-03-27 10:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by mustangsally76 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the state but in NC you have to live under different roofs for a year then you can get a divorce. All branches of service offer counsleing, ask your PCM. Go to base legal and ask them what you can do. They are there for you too. If you dropped everything to be with him, then you will get something out of it, like a plane ticket and some money to come back to the states.
2007-03-27 12:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by april_lujano 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jag is there to help you as well they do not represent either of you in the court they help with the filing of paper work. Your husband can do a diddy move to get you back to the states. get a lawyer.
2007-03-27 10:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what good luck with that,, you should have never married him if you wasn't willing to move and be supportive to what he has to do,, and places he has to go. as far as getting back to the states it is up to you,, the unit is not going to fly you back to the states once you are divorced,, and i hope he won't , just to be a D I C K about it,, i know i would.
2007-03-27 09:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by redneckmp28 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he won't willingly pay for you to get the f out?! Why did you marry the guy in the first place? I would gladly give up my job if my husband said to and go where he goes, anywhere in the world. As long as we're together. You need to find out what real love is all about. Grow up. If you leave him, it's your job to get your ownself back to the States.
2007-03-27 09:11:09 · answer #7 · answered by gigglings 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
umm.. news flash, if you marry someone in the military, your probably going to have to move around, don't blame him, you joined the military when you married him, you should have known this, only a certain kind of woman can handle being a military wife
2007-03-27 10:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by Falloutgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋