I don't mean like suicidally depressed or utterly miserable, just a bit depressed. Life has less colour than it ought to; I'm in a good relationship, have a lovely family and an adorable baby, I live in a nice apartment in a good neighbourhood, my job is okay and I get Friday's off to stay home with the baby...
Nothing is really terribly wrong, but it all feels a bit flat.
2007-03-26 23:25:11 · 14 answers · asked by Skidoo 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
One of the difficulties is the feeling of guilt that I do have plenty to be happy about and instead it all feels a bit empty, so people telling me 'don't be silly' and 'stop being so ungrateful for all your blessings' are really not very helpful!!
I appreciate what I have, but it doesn't stop me crying several times a week because I feel cut off from my own life.
2007-03-27 00:29:44 · update #1
This itself reveals how worn-out and you are all-in !
Every woman at some point of time or the other faces depression mainly due to the hormonal imbalances & due to the growing additional responsibilities. This could be easily tackled with the following tips:
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Relax as much as you can. If you feel that sleeping only gives you relaxation, then you would no doubt end up only in entering into the world of depression – relaxation is something that should relax you mentally not just the physical ! Indulge in hobbies / activities which gives you a real mental relaxation !
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Also, every minute tell yourself that you are the happiest person on earth & you’re lucky to be blessed with the best things in life.
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This is the most important- the physical activity! Spare a few hours or minutes regularly as per your convenience for some good physical activity like brisk walking, aerobics, yoga, sports etc. which would really burn down your junk calories !
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Dress up well not just when you go out on dates, but every minute .. spare a few minutes regularly on giving your face a healthy lift
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More than doing the routine works just for the sake of doing it, enjoy doing even your routines !
Follow these & see the difference for yourself !!
2007-03-26 23:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Jayalakshmi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
It might be from all of the excitement from having the baby, and now you have got back to the reality of life. The mundane everyday stuff, that sometimes can make a person just feel blah. Especially after having a big change in your life and now you are settling down into motherhood.
This also could be part of a little bit of post partum depression. I do not know how old your baby is, however post partum depression can come on anytime the first yr. of having a baby.
Consult with your dr. about how u are feeling so he can help. It is not something to ignore, and needs to be addressed because it could get worse for you.
Take care of yourself, so you can feel better.
2007-03-27 00:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice for 20 mins. daily, and when needed, the method at http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com Meditation room; try it out; mantra meditation; repeat the word: "easy", or gaze at a burning candle in a quiet, darkened room. Tai Chi & yoga suit some. Exercise vigorously for 30 - 60 mins. daily, eat healthily, and keep occupied. Do something for other, less fortunate people, occasionally, like take a disadvantaged child on an outing, or visit ill children in hospital: this will make you see just how good you have it, and make you feel good about yourself, too. Also, do something out of the ordinary for you, like hot air ballooning, horseriding, gliding, scuba diving, hiking; there are hundreds to choose from: it will get you out of your rut. Consider a course on something you find interesting, like art, creative writing, photography, or ceramics. Check out post partum depression with your doctor, as your body is no longer producing those feel good chemicals it did when you were pregnant, to the same degree. Take a vitamin B complex, and 4 fish oil supplements, daily.
2007-03-27 01:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel! You really do need to find a sympathetic ear (and not someone to tell you to "snap out of it" or "what do you have to complain about") . Apparently excercise is an excellent way to help. Take your baby for a walk. If after you have asked for help from a friend and tried little things(even St John's Wort) you may need to take medication for a short period of time eg a month. This will help get your thoughts more positive and get your mindset better. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!!!
2007-03-26 23:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by mareeclara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a couple of things -
don't take drugs
don't think you need to have a 'mental disorder' just because everyone else does
take time for yourself
when you start having negative thoughts or feeling flat, STOP what you are doing and DO something else - be active - actively fight in your mind the blah or down feelings, and be physically active in pursuing happiness
talk to your husband or a close friend - but don't let them sympathize and cry with you for too long - make them be active with you and get you out doing something (get your mind off it)
take care!!
2007-03-26 23:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by jennainhiding 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems you feel bored when you are not having something to do. For this you can start various type of activities to keep you busy along with some socially useful productive work , Like spreading literacy among poor and needy people,you can spare 2to 3 hours on Saturday/Sunday for this purpose. Another activity may be forming a cooperative sort of thing for environmental protection which can take steps to save and protect our environment. Similarly, you can embark upon eradication of social evils cropping up in the society like violence, anti social activities, eve teasing and petty crimes etc. Once, one gets involved in some sort of activity, she/he can get rid of depression.
2007-03-26 23:37:47 · answer #6 · answered by sb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn to make some time to enjoy yourself. Find something YOU like to do, let dad spend some time with the baby and get out with friends or on you own.
2007-03-26 23:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by IAINTELLEN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you expecting to find on Y!A? A doctor who can prescribe anti-depressants? You need real world help, not this place.
You also need to learn to appreciate how great your life is, and stop being so ungrateful for all your blessings.
2007-03-26 23:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to meditate.there are a lot of books that teach you how.You'll be more relaxed and you'll start to see life from another angle
2007-03-26 23:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by sauvage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. It's normal. One thing NOT to do is take a pill that "helps".
2007-03-26 23:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by Nicktu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋