When you have a girlfriend/wife do you expect her to pay either:
A) Exactly half of everything,
B) The same percentage that you pay (whichever one is higher)
C) All of everything,
D) Nothing,
E) A little - the gesture is more important than the cash itself,
F) As much as she can (even if it's not that much).
I'm talking about couples who live together mainly, so paying for things like bills, food, nights out, general living expenses etc.
I ask because I am surprised at what alot of womens attitude to this is & I wondered what men thought on the issue!
All opinions welcome!
Please state what age you are if possible too please!
Thanks :)
2007-03-26 22:38:44 · 20 answers · asked by Cori 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't take out a calculator and I dont prepare an invoice sheet prior to seeing someone...people give and take...
2007-03-26 22:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expectations for a girlfriend are different than for a wife - with a girlfriend, she should at least offer from time to time (and/or do other special things within her means), as a courtesy, just to show that she does not EXPECT to always be on the receiving end in the relationship. With a wife, circumstances are slightly different, as one would hope that both are working together to create a mutually secure and satisfying lifestyle, so regardless of who pays, the money is coming from the marital resources.
2007-03-27 05:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mother an only work part time but this does not bother my partner as he say I've got the harder part i look after the home an children so even though he earns more an pays more when your a couple an really want to be together it should not matter who pays more i am 32
2007-03-27 05:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When two people are into a relationship, there needs to be understanding as well as a give and take attitude. Who pays more or how to divide the payments should not be an issue - if they understand each other well enough, this thing would work out naturally. usually the one who earns more would take more out. Personally, as a male, I don't expect my partner to pay when we dine out and it makes my day when she occassionally offers to foot the bill.
2007-03-27 06:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by Seng Kim T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on each relationship and each person, as well as circumstances at the time. The whole Idea of the male being the breadwinner is so out of date that it no longer really applies. You have to look at the releationship and what each of you earns and in what proportaion you can cover the outgoings! I mean if one of you earns twice as much as the other, then not really fair having a 50/50 split!
2007-03-27 06:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as bills (including food shopping) are concerned I like to work it so we have roughly the same amount of cash at the end of the month as I'm on a bit more than she is. As far as going out for meals etc I like to pay, its nice to treat her as much as possible
2007-03-27 08:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Soul Reason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The social contract is very simple.
The woman provides "the stuff" on a regular & frequent basis and the man takes care of all of the bills.
However, when the woman violates the contract and get besides herself and starts saying stuff like, "I'm tired," -- "I have a headache", and "it's that time of the month", then the contract is subject to renegotiation. The woman would be in breach of the tacit social contract.
We all know that this is the parameters of the social contract.
So please don't ask surprised!
2007-03-27 05:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by DaMan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Age 23,
if we are married and are out at dinner i would still rather pay, she could get the tip if she just wanted to contribute. the bills i think should be an even split. i think and hope that when the day comes that me and my girl share a bank account and it doesn’t matter. its not mine its not hers its ours even if one of us is temporally unemployed or what ever. in my opinion when you get married your not just sharing your time its every thing. back to the dinner thing its our money but it still feels good if it comes from my wallet.
2007-03-27 05:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by MIKE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married, so the wife and I just pool our money together to pay the bills and such. If she or I want to buy something non-bill rleated we just ask each other. Marriage is all about compromise.
2007-03-27 05:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by br@ini@c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have a joint bank account all bills are paid out of that . We don't have separate money what ever is in the account belongs to both of us.
2007-03-27 06:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by derek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend and I live together and have a joint account and the bills just come out of there.
I guess I contribute more money, but then I earn more so its not her fault.
2007-03-27 05:43:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋