A question for the ladies: does persistence pay off?
Sure there are a million things to further qualify that question, but for you, personally, if a guy (not exactly Mr. Right, nor Mr. Incredibly Terrible, just Mr. Normal) kept persisting with you - he kept implying to you how much he fancies you - regardless of how much you kept "nicely" implying that you weren't interested, do you think you could EVENTUALLY start falling for the guy?
2007-03-26 22:36:31 · 8 answers · asked by Jo T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe so! That's how I ended up with my husband. I was not interested in him at all. I never even found him attractive, but he never gave up. I only gave him a chance becuz he said what's it gonna hurt if you try? If It doesn't work you don't lose anything. So, I let him take me out, then he just kept taking me out, bought me things, treated me well and before I knew it when he kissed me I was thinking wow he's hot.8 years later I still love him as much as I did on the night of our first kiss.
2007-03-26 22:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by LaLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Persistence may or may not pay off it really depends on what the person is persisting . If a guy is calling you like 7 times/day everyday to the point it is getting on your nerves, then he becomes a pest and it is a HUGE turnoff. I made the mistake of giving this guy my number because I thought he was nice( I was much younger). I found out he was really a thug and a friend of my best friend knew him and said he was actually married. I let him know pretty early like within a week of giving him my number that I was no longer interested. I confronted him about being married and he denied it, Come to find out he was newly married like within the month that we met. He called and called and called, so I had to tell him I'm no longer interested. He was so persistent but it did not matter because I do not date married men... so his persistance with me did not pay off...He's a pig anyway., His poor wife. Oh.. I had to change my cell number because he would not take no.
if the guy is normal..it is possible that you could fall for the guy but in my opinion, most people know what they really want and when they meet that person they naturally will be attracted to him and persistence on his part would not be needed unless the girl wants to play chase
2007-03-27 06:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly234 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inmy personal experience I have a friend who tells me that he loves me and that hes the only on that can make me happy and he'd look after me, he does this all the time (even though I have a partner of 4.5 years).. In this case persistance is not the answer... It just puts a strain on our friendship every time i tell him im not into him like that...
2007-03-27 05:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One time I had a friend in that situations from the other side. There was a guy who wouldn't stop calling her, and she was too nice to say "Leave me alone." What ended up happening was that she told him, "Why would I want to be with someone who does not listen to me? You obviously don't care about my opinion and my feelings, because you keep persisting."
I don't know about your case, but this is what happened to my friend.
2007-03-27 05:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by Elisa-chan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI....I think maybe you could convice yourself that you have fallen for this person...but what you will really have accomplished in "settling"....my motto...DON'T EVER SETTLE. Try to ask yourself what you will feel like down the road when you wake up next to this person. If you feel a pit in your stomach or a pang in the heart ...RUN RUN AWAY
2007-03-27 06:26:08 · answer #5 · answered by scalawagsdream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don be over persistant like this one guy new abt my bf but just couldnt stopp telling me he loved me like every 10 minutes he'd send me a msg sayin "I LOVE U!!!! smooch" n well that gets on your nerves jus tell her its ok n that you'd rather be friends n then try to get her jealous that's a more workable shot
2007-03-27 05:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by thelibrandiva_666 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. If he kept pursuing me after I brushed him off, I would just turn around and scream, "Look, ______, what do I have to do to convince you that I don't wanna go out with you?!"
2007-03-27 09:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, i'm in your situation too. i'll keep going, she's the girl i love and i dont care to waste all my life time for a hope someday. right?
2007-03-27 05:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jay Cheng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋