I have been chatting with this guy on net for almost a year. We have had a lot of fun and we have looked at each other's pictures, cam to cam, and talked on mic. The problem is that we live really far apart from each other, but he has decided to come all the way to meet me next week.
He is 10 years older than me but he tells me that he likes me a lot. I don't know if he can be trusted since I still feel insecure sometimes (due to my previous relationship).
Should I meet him?
Can I trust him?
Please help.. I'm really confused now.
2007-03-26 22:35:23 · 16 answers · asked by An ordinary girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks everyone... I'm 18.
2007-03-26 22:41:49 · update #1
Thanks people.. I still can't help but worry about it.
2007-03-26 23:54:36 · update #2
If you want to meet him then do so but just take precautions. Tell friends where and who you will be with. Meet in a public place during the day, not at night. Dont be tempted to go to a hotel with him. Get a friend to give you a 'checkup' call half way through your meet. Good luck, I hope he turns out to be wonderful!
2007-03-26 22:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say "no." I think it's a bad idea. And yes, age is one of my factors. You're 18. 18 is so young to get involved in a long distance relationship with somebody who is soon to be a "thirtysomething." My problem with it is not so much the 10 year difference, but simply the experience difference.
The amount of experience in dating and in life is so much greater at 28 than at 18. (28 and 38 not as a big a deal as 18 and 28). You find out a lot about yourself in your early 20's, that I think it's a bad idea to get involved. LDR's can be very painful and again, at 18 you could and should have so many other, better experiences in dating.
2007-03-26 22:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Elisa-chan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd arrange to meet him in a public place, like a pub and then bring a couple of friends along. That way, they can both be around to make sure everything's ok. If he's a genuine guy, he'll completely understand why you wanted to play things safe.... They could either sit with you both, or sit nearby to give you some privacy.
Don't go off on your own with him the first time. If he's worth it, he'll be back!!
2007-03-26 22:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by LBUK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go for it and meet him but do it in a public place like at a cafe or something and maybe take a friend along with you,
A friend of mine has had an internet relationship with a girl in canada for3 years now and has gone over to see her 2 times now and they are still very much in love even though they only see each other for a few months a year untill she moves to new zealand. so i think you should go for it girl!!
2007-03-26 23:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful.
Meet in a public place, always tell someone where you are going and dial a number on your mobile so that if you need to call someone in an emergency then it wil only take a second.
He sounds genuine but from experience, people you meet on the internet are not always what they seem.
I hope he is as he says and everything is ok.
2007-03-26 22:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to meet up with the guy, bring along a friend and arrange to meet somewhere where it is public and safe. You are only 18 and at an age where some smooth talking dude with a glib tongue can get you all confused - so please take care and at anytime you feel uneasy, just get up and run!
2007-03-26 23:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by Seng Kim T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thing is, what difference is there in meeting this person than if one of your friends had set you up with him, or you'd met him in a bar.
The only difference I can see is that you've already got to know this person which can only be a good thing.
For sure, there's a risk, but that risk isn't 'because you met on the internet', it's the same risk as if you'd met him in the supermarket. Anyone could be a nutter, or, more likely, a totally sane and ordinary human being.
2007-03-26 22:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really want to meet him then take friends along with you..and dont give too much info away also it would be a good idea to get to know his friends and family.
2007-03-26 22:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off... If you dont mind me asking, how old are, u... If your an adult then if you want to meet him then you can but make sure its in a very very very public place... Dont just meet him in a secluded place or his house...
Just be carful and use your common sence... If you feel strange then back out... Its never to late...
2007-03-26 22:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by Kaley C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u really want to meet him why not, atleast u guys have chatted for one year and i think its enough to know whether he can be trusted or not.
meet with him and get to know him before anything else.
2007-03-26 23:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋