Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 long years and it always seems like i can never do anything right or be the girlfriend im meant to be. It started like this... His mother was in Hospital for some reason and i didnt see him for a week but it was fine so when i finally did see him he started fighting with me about everything and on the way home i asked about his mom and what was wrong. After 4 years together i tell him everything about everything but when asked how his mom is he totally flipped and started screaming and shouting at me saying that im such a nosey ***** and that it absolutely none of my business. He said that it doesnt matter if we have been together for 4 years or married for 20 that its non of my business and i am such a selfish nosey gossip!!!!!!! WELL as he was shouting i turned up the radio and he HAHA went crazy and slapped my leg like you do when a baby is kicking something. I dont know what to do now!! He has not contacted me at all! I dont know ? HELP
2007-03-26 22:18:59 · 17 answers · asked by Keisha C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he slapped you? and callled you a nosey gossip? listen girl u've gone out wit this guy for 4 years and u cant ask how his mum is doing? thats crazy! no matter how stressed he is he has no right to treat u that way! i also cant believe that you think you cant do anything 'girlfrendish' right...being yourself is the only girlfriend-ish thing u can do... there are no set rules on how you should be after u get into a relationship...of course ur not supposed to cheat, or lie and your supposed to make time for each other... and im sure u have done all these things! listen honey this guys is awful, how dare he raise his hand to you, he will do it again and worse to your children (if u have any wit him) it means he has no control over his anger...
dump the guy! 4 yrs is a long time.... i no...
but listen you have what a lot of other ppl dont have ... A REASON..so when ever u think 'why the hell did i let him go' u remind your self how he did u wrong and hurt ur feelings!
now your life can truly begin... i hope i helped.
2007-03-26 22:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by Nadz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since his mother is in the hospital.. it seems to be thats hes ery stressed or he has something hes hiding about her that he dosent want you to know.. but most likely hes just stressed.. and hes taking it out on you dont worrie.. he will come to his senses soon enough.. but he still should have told you i mean 4 years is a long time.. he should definatly tell you maybe you could help him through it.. i think he just wants attention maybe.. that tends to happen when someone is getting attention due to whats happening in there life such as his mother shes probably getting alot of attention.. by doctors and his family.. he probably feels left out.. so just try to stand back for a while show him you care.. and try to talk about it if that dosent work.. maybe you two need a little break.. but if he yells at you.. for no reason just take care of your self. good luck..
2007-03-27 05:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by BuTtErFlY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he always been like this or just recently??
I think there is something playing on his mind....or someone!! I would not contact him at all, if he calls or texts u to explain why he acted like this then its up to u if u listen.
Just remember a slap on the leg could turn into a punch in the face!!!!! Are you worth more than that, I think so and i dont even know you! You can do better, Dont be treated like a bit of sh#t he scraped off his shoe anymore.
You get out of that relationship girl!!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK.
2007-03-27 05:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him time. The news with his mother maybe putting him in a place where he can't deal.
Also, if your in a position where you feel your always wrong or not good enough, you should think hard about how this person is nurturing you emotionally. He may be a little controlling and uses these tactics to make you feel less than desirable. Women in that position usually don't leave because their mate has made them believe that no one else wants them.
2007-03-27 05:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by LaLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some breathing room and let him deal with what's going on by himself if he wants you to know he'll tell you and then you can help him or just comfort him untill then let him do his thing and go do yours. remember all people deal with things in thier own way and just cause you tell him everything dosen't mean he is the same way some people are mor private about thier life than others so give it time and let him know that your there for him if he wants to talk and leave it at that for he'll come around on his time but don't push or you'll push him out of your life for good. if it is over though then move on and don't worry about what all the drama is with him cause it will only drive you crazy but still let him know your A FRIEND and you care.
2007-03-27 05:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by outlawprincess5321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch him. He is using his mom's hospitalization to verbally abuse you. He is an abuser. Appreciate that his true colors came out. He obviously doesn't love you if you think you can't do anything right. Your self esteem seems low at this point. You weren't nosy by asking how his mom was. Its genuine care. So, drop him. And have fun being single for a while. Work on you. You deserve so much more.
2007-03-27 05:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have to call and apologise to him and tell him that you were worried and concern about the mother but at the same time you did not like the way he reacted to you. at least if there is anything that you have done he should have confronted you nicely rather than the way he acted.
if he true loves you then he should know that he over reacted on the issue. if after apologizing he still behaves that way i would advice that you give him space or move on with your life.
2007-03-27 05:35:23 · answer #7 · answered by spankybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I'm real sorry to hear about all that drama. I think that you should re-consider being in a relationship with him if things get so involved with the family like they are at this point. Hopefully you can resolve things with his mother, but to tell you the truth I think you should get the full experience of being with a real man. (631) 428-4974
2007-03-27 05:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by shlam_man_oioi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must've said/done something to set him off.
To share every detail of your life is your choice. You are not his wife and thus not yet part of his family - and even then, some things are kept between close family, respect that. Rather not ask a million questions, support him. Don't pressure him into sharing, he'll come to you when he needs you.
Give him space and time to cool off..
2007-03-27 05:38:19 · answer #9 · answered by sexybabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know that you just wanted to know because it's part of his life, and you wanted to be there for him. call him and apologize for upsetting him, but you also need to tell him that his response was unacceptable. he's clearly taking out his frustration and hurt about his mom on you, and you need to understand the situation and what he expects from you. after 4 years, you should both know that communiction is key, even if you're both hurting.
2007-03-27 05:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋