2007-03-26 22:18:41 · 20 answers · asked by leila 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
OK so maybe I should be a bit more specific...For awhile I have been interested in Islam, even before I met him. I've done lots of reading about it so it's not like I don't know what it's about. It's looked at as an oppressive way of life for women, but the Qu'ran holds women as EQUAL to men.
My boyfriend is not making me convert. He wants me to decide what I am going to do.
2007-03-26 22:46:16 · update #1
I am a non-practicing Christian who is studying Islam and married to a wonderful Muslim man. There is no reason to convert before you marry this man, unless you truly feel you have done enough studying and you are ready. Do not do it just for the sake of marriage because he is not required to marry a Muslim woman. Convert only because you are ready to. Either way, best wishes and congratulations.
2007-03-27 00:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear sister... In Islam and the Quran women are not considered equals of men.... you can check for the concept of "Qiwama" which means that the man has the upper hand.... his house... his money... his decisions....
... i do not criticize Islam as I respect my fellow Muslims but let me tell you that in Islam you are not the quivalent of a man and men are superior to you.... make more researches and think about the men's right to marry more than one woman...
.. the fact the women inherit half what the men inherit.... the fact that the Quran allows the husband to beat his wife if necessary and (slightly) as the interpreters may put it....
... if you seek peace then do not seek it this way.... you will not find it.
2007-03-27 01:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Cheers For All 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should only convert for God and belief in Islam, not for your bf or future husband. Make sure you discuss all aspects of married life before marriage. If you are Christian or Jew there is no reason to convert if you dont really feel comfortable doing it. Take your time and learn all you can.
For Nihilist...there is no mention in the Quran about stoning for apostasy...no mention of stoning for anything. Stop making sh*t up.
2007-03-26 23:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by coolred38 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hope you have given enough thought and weightage to elder's advise. Ideally both of you should be allowed to follow your respective religion. If religion is far more important than respecting each other as they are, then it is going to have a lot more problems than solutions. I know many who did this, and repents later. Also, in Islam, a tripple talaque said verbally is sufficiant even in inebriated condition for a divorce. In Islam, ladies are always house keepers. They will have to wear Burqua whenever they go out. If you were in someother religion and enjoyed the liberty there, you will feel like you made a mistake later. Why I am saying is not by knowing there are ladies in "Islam". Yes, many of them are thinking at least in next birth they wanted to be born in some other religion. Many finds it secured as well. I personally feel, Islam never treats females as equals.
I have one aethiest friend married to a hardcore "Christian" woman. He goes till the churchgate drops her, waits till the "Sunday Sermon" gets over. Even I saw once his father born Hindu, but again an aethiest when my friend was not around, dropped her at "Church". I think that is ideal.
2007-03-26 22:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by r_govardhanam 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You do not need to convert to get married. If he really loves you, he wil not force you to do so of course.
If you want to convert to Islam, it's alright. It's alright. If you do not wish to convert that's also okay. No one's gonna hit you with a bolt of lightning right? =D
Your boyfriends giving you the choice to do what you want to do. Make full advantage of that. But if you have any problems, you can confide them with your boyfriend, a reliable person from your current religion (if you have one).
God Bless,
from a Christian
2007-03-27 00:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by 0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mashallah that's so good you are converting to islam!...this shows your true love for your BF!....now when you have decided to convert then it justed shouldnt be that you have just changed for your love....you should spiritually be ready with your whole heart to become a muslim.....religion is a person's identity!....its not right if you just go and accpet the religion...i hope you understand what i am trying to say!......if you do convert have a stong faith believe in Allah!... dont ever get dishearted by comments of people...be strong nd frim!....your religion should be your strength....and i am sure your husband would be the most supportive!.....Islam is not hard people have made it seem so hard!....you just need to believe in fundamental rules of islam strongly....believe in oneness of Allah...he's our lord!...just be such a good muslim that others find you as a source of inspiration!....for lady to become muslim one the most important part is how to dress....i know you must have seen a lot of Muslim women not dressed according to their religious laws....you just have to look decent....dont show how beautiful you are to every man around.....when the men will see you in a muslim women's attire they would respect you!....and wont dare to look at you with a bad eye.....dress deently with a scarf to cover your hair and neck.....your BF would respect and Appreciate yourchange!.......probably it will bring a better change in him!...which would be counted as a good deed of yours!.....if you do become a Muslim with a strong faith inshAllah...then Welcome to our religion!....i hope you and your BF get married soon....and spend a great life with lots of love,understanding,trust,gratitude and pleasure!....wish you all the best!
2007-03-26 22:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by tabu 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Convert before you marry.
Marry after you converted for the sake of loving Islam not because of your bf.
Good luck.
2007-03-26 22:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by jahn j 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I were you the first thing I would do is watch Not Without My Daughter,true story in every detail. Any woman who converts to Islam deserves what she gets if it all goes wrong. Good luck with that.
AD
2007-03-26 22:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
reserch abt islaM maybe u yrself find out that islam is a peacful and good religion,not only cuz of marriage.it is a rule in islam that a muslim should marry a muslim maybe cuz islam want to be introduced by this method to who that don't know it:)
I am a muslim ,and recommend u to investigate abt especially shia, u will find new point of life in it,but be aware that search without any prejudgment!
2007-03-26 22:35:54 · answer #9 · answered by liloofar 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
*Pinches the bridge of his nose and shakes his head*
Have fun signing your identity and life away. Hope you're content to be in the isolationist world you're going to find yourself in.....
And don't forget... it is a one-way process. If you convert to Islam, decide you don't like it and try to back out..... The Qu'ran clearly dictates you must be stoned to death for it... and Muslims take that stuff seriously.
But seriously...
Hope you're content in it..... because you're effectively lost to the world once you step in.
2007-03-26 22:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by Nihilist Templar 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋