Met a guy 2 years ago through a friend. He was 28 & I was 23. From the start we grew really close, he messed me around slightly during the process as he knew he liked me, but wasn't sure if he wanted any commitments right now & didn't want to end up hurting me, as he could probably cheat on me or something. So he ended up saying that he can't do it right now as he wasn't in that frame of mind. I said to him then that I have an opportunity to start seeing someone else now, so I want to be 100% sure that you are serious & told him that there was no going back after this, he still said that it would be best to be friends right now. He kept calling me after for a few months & I told him that it was best that we go our seperate ways as he told me what he wants & doesnt want. 2 years later he 31 me 25 things on my behalf hav changed I hav got an even more successful job & hav just brought a new house we hav got in contact again, went for a drink & is wanting something serious with me.
2007-03-26 22:11:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this guy has said that he really wants to start something now, but I just can't get over the fact that he decided to let me go, without knowing if we would ever get together again, when I asked him 1 last time what he wanted and that there was no going back he still said no! so there should be no going back right he had his chance?
2007-03-26 22:11:46 · update #1
Things do change sometimes. You need to ask yourself,do you want him back?
2007-03-26 22:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by nutnut1957 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are absolutely right. Why take someone back when you made it perfectly clear to them that it was their last chance and they still didn't want to commit to you?
It sounds like he just wants to be the one in control, and to do things on his terms only. Well its takes two people to have a relationship and you can't just do what he wants all the time because then you won't have a life anymore or be able to make any decisions.
2007-03-27 06:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation for you. He may not have been ready for a relationship. Now that the stiuation is different, do you still care for him? He decided to let you go. Maybe things are different but it doesn't change the past. Are you ready to let go the past in order to make a future with this person? In my opinion, he didn't want to get with you when you didn't have anything. Now that your life is better, he wants to be a part of that.... I'd be wary. Just in my opinion.
2007-03-27 05:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. He is to old to be playing those games. The truth is that if he wanted you he would have committed. People always say they don't want a relationship right now but it is only because they don't want it anyone they have found yet. I am sorry it sucks. Just be happy knowing that you a great catch and he doesn't deserve you.
2007-03-27 05:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to decide what you want. don't base your decision on what happened two years ago. if you trust that he's really inerested in a serious relationship and you want that as well, then why screw it up out of spite? if you don't really want to be with him, then tell him it's too late. make the decision based on your feelings now.
2007-03-27 05:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you have got it together he just wants a "free piece of the pie"! Leave this loser in the dust and move on...
2007-03-27 05:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you take him back now, he will never learn to respect your wishes.
2007-03-27 05:16:28 · answer #7 · answered by genn_silver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell know let him know you are the one that got away if you weren't good enough before then why are you good for him now drop the looser hunny
2007-03-27 05:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by yo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to bug off...Waste no more time and energy on this guy...
2007-03-27 06:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he going after your riches?
2007-03-27 05:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by tinklefaerie88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋