See about a little over a week ago I found some odd text messages in my boyfriends cell from a girl
i asked him to his face,looked him dead in the eye....who this girl was he said "idk why?"
i walked away upon this response.
come to find out later that he knew exactly who she was and why i wanted to know.
He said that she was a "ex girlfriend" of one of his cousins a "friend" now and that he had told me about her before.(which i dont remember)& he was the one who gave her his phone number. i dont think somebody in any relationship should be giving their # out.
he said that he didnt want to tell me because I'd "over-react"
and be upset with him.
ever since then he hasnt brought his phone around me and he has no other way to charge it but in our home (cause his car charger is broke)
could this mean something is up or that hes trying to hide something?
also would it be wrong for me to ask him for this girls phone number to say that im gonna call her and ask whats really going on?
2007-03-26 22:08:55 · 14 answers · asked by lady_luv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the texts were along the lines of giving him her new phone number,asking if he REMEMBERED where she lived,and asking how the other night went.
If i confront him again what should i say?
2007-03-26 22:25:37 · update #1
ok,if there in nothing goin' on why should he hide his phone now if he wasn't used to it before..I think u should sit and talk to him..tell him that the way he is acting lately is annoying you and that u don't like it..tell him that u r jealous and that u think something wrong is goin' on..that if he wants this relationship to continue he should be open and more faithful to u.Or u have to put an end to all of this.U don't want to live in suspicions..
2007-03-26 22:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by Black Drop 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that your boyfriend does seem to behaving out of character from what you have described.
I would tread carefully if I was you. He could be telling you the truth and if you pursued it potentially it could backfire on you and who knows what might happen.
Keep in mind as well that guys are stubborn creatures. So if you want to know something they usually rebel instantly.
My advice is to drop the subject for a bit. Pretend like you've forgotten about it. When the phone re-appears discreetly take a look at the messages and call history. Decide from there.
2007-03-27 05:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by pamela p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when my BF started hanging out wit this girl at uni, AS FRIENDS he didnt tell me because he was afraid i would leave him (im very possessive and go crazy even if his head is turned in another girls direction) when i discovered some friendly sms in his phone (a no which wasnt saved to his contacts) he sed it was a guy friend and later when i questioned him he said it was a girl in school and they hung out sometimes cos they are on an assingnment together..he was really freaked out that i would leav him if i found out so he didnt tell me until he found a way to introduce the two of us...
1st think about wether u are like me the possessive type,,, and think about ur BF is, is he a nice guy, does he open the door for you, would be die for you, does he have a roving eye? think about it, ask him about it, ask him to clear you doubts because if not u cant be with him, does he look into your eye. tell him if he likes another girl that u guys can go ur seperate ways, be a mature about it, go with your gut... good luck!
2007-03-27 05:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by Nadz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating, or very seriously considering it.
If he has to sneak, something is definitely going on. If you want to stay, confront him and give him a choice. Either he comes clean and doesn't hide his phone any longer or you will leave him. Ask him how he would feel if you were hiding calls from your ex boyfriend.
Don't let him cheat on you. I would leave him if he continues to act this way. It won't end good!
2007-03-27 05:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have got to have trust with him. He said he didn't want to tell you because you will over react. I think that is the main reason. If he doesn't like you anymore then he will break up with you but he didn't so it means that she is just a friend. Your boyfriend is smart. He knows what a girl thinks so you have just got to be trustful to him. A good relationship starts with trust with each other.
2007-03-27 05:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by SinChkuDo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something is going on for sure! Don't ask for her number. Ask yourself if this guy is really worth your time. A guy in a relationship shouldn't be giving out his number.
2007-03-27 05:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to say it but my bet is that he is not being truthfull and therefore has something to hide
calling the girl probably won't answer any questions for you, or she may lie to you, best bet is to lay low, don't bring up the subject and see if he slips up again, then see if the text messages are out of line and then call him on it.
2007-03-27 05:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by onlinedreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what's going on but id be seriously unhappy too. i agree, a guy in a relationship shouldnt be giving his number out and keeping it secret from you. secret female friends are a big no in a relationship. he's gotta be honest with you or i'd tell him where to go!
2007-03-27 05:13:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does not want you to go through the texts in his phone..I don't think he is being faithful..
Looks as though you own him!!! Do you??/
2007-03-27 05:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yep Ive used that lie also...hes got a chick on the side..
2007-03-27 05:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋