My mom is so cool. I love her so much but if i ask her if I can go to the movies at like 5pm she'll say no and she says she can trust me its just the other people that she can't trust.
I am 13 and I wish she would stop treating me like a little girl....soo can you give me a little advice please..
2007-03-26 22:04:29 · 22 answers · asked by :DDtortillas:DD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's true though, because you are only 13 and at your age, your peers are being rebellious.
Maybe you can compromise with her, tell her you will call when you get there and when you leave and you will only go to the movies and back home.
After a while of her trusting you, she will be more lenient.
It's a pain at first, but it's a crazy world out there!
2007-03-26 22:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by elidet_reyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. "she says she can trust me" ~ obviously the answer is yes.
2. "its just the other people that she can't trust" ....It's the same feeling a good driver gets when they go out on the roads in an ice storm...there are those who are driving like the all mighty invincible speed roadster (an accident waiting to happen) and those who are driving cautiously. Your mom is like the good driver and you're the passanger. She's trying to get you to your destination (adulthood) without being interfered with.
Is it possible that mom could still be in the driver's seat in a way? A good example or question to ask mum is "can I go to a movie with a group of my friends and we'd like to know if you'd be interested in coming along"...here's the catch she's being invited to come, if not another gal can ask a parent. You could invite her to sit with you or she may even want to have her own space but at least you would know that there is a familiar adult, given the fact that you are in your young teens, around and at the same time she will grow to know you will be ok going out more as you get older.
2007-03-27 00:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually allow my daughter to go with and adult chaperon. It's not that your mom doesn't trust you, she just knows that your at an age where you are extremely impressionable. At this point in your life, your friends' influence is stronger than any parent likes. You need years on you for evening outings. I go with my daughter and hang back to let her be her. Or, if she chooses to go earlier in the day, I drive her and pick her up at a specific time. I do this to show that I trust her and give her an opportunity to show me that she can be trusted
2007-03-26 22:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by LaLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom, tell her how you feel. Tell her that you are old enough to go to the movies with your friends. She was 13 years old once too, she should know how important it is at this age to go and hang out with your friends. Offer to let her check up on you whenever she wants. Tell her she can even spy on you for all you care, cause you WILL be at the movies doing nothing bad. Just make it clear to her that she can trust you, and that you are smart enough to not do anything stupid just cause your friends want you to.
2007-03-26 22:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by pennysl00t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she does that because she loves you and it would kill her if something were to happen to you. so she is over protective. let her know that you have grown up now and you would like to do things on your own. tell her you can call her when you get to the movies if she wants or let her take you there or pick you up if thats possible. let her know you will always be her daughter but your not a little girl anymore and that you understand you growing up is hard on her but everyone has to let go at some point. good luck
2007-03-26 22:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by princess1226 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to realise that you are the most precious person in the world to your mother. And there might be reasons why she doens't want you go to to the movies. I hate my kids gong to the movies on their own, because I was assaulted in a moviehouse - and I was sitting right next to my aunt! Pervs go to the movies to prey on kids, sometimes.
I let my daughter go with friends and the friends behaved so badly, that people were throwing popcorn at them! My daughter was mortified.
If it is really important to you, ask her what she would accept. Perhaps a group of trusted friends, whom she knows can behave.
2007-03-26 22:08:51 · answer #6 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you're only 13, give it time! Mum's are supposed to be overprotective!
Maybe if you want to go to the movies see if she can drop you, or come and pick you up again - try to negotiate a bit. Start slow, but remember that there are some terrible people out there so you cant blame her for trying to keep you safe!!
2007-03-26 22:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 18:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient - show her that you are growing up and are responsible and trustworthy. start small and work your way up to the bigger things. ask her what you can do to show her that you won't allow peer pressure make you do something wrong.
remember that you are 13 and in an adults eyes you are still a little girl. i remember when i was 13 i couldn't wait to be "grown up". it will happen so just enjoy your age for now, patience will bring what you want, just not as fast as you want it.
2007-03-26 22:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by onlinedreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 13! I mean I could understand if you were older but seriously I would relax with all that. I know you want more responsibility but you have to understand where your mom is coming from. It worries a parent to have their 13 year old out and about without supervision. I mean look at all the crazy stuff that happens in this country. It doesn't happen to boys thats for sure. its mostly young girls. they are just worried.
2007-03-26 22:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋