okay, well my boy has just turned 18, and because im not quite 18, i cant go out with him.
i personally think im too attched to him, and i have a real problem with himn going out to pubs and stuff? why is this? i always feel like im going to have a panic attack, even though i know he would never do anything to me, i love him dearly but its like i dont want him to have fun without me? can someone tell me how to get over =myself and fully trust my boy?
2007-03-26 21:23:45 · 4 answers · asked by Sarah B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump him... and wait until you are mature enough for a proper adult relationship!!! :D
2007-03-26 21:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi i dont blame you for feeling the way you do he has turned 18 and not thinking of you , tell him how you feel ask him how would he feel if you were 18 and he was 17 and you were going to the pubs and leaving him out , its ok to have your own space but within reason you will want to go out with the girls when you turn 18 without the boys thats ok every now and then but not all the time you have to make time for each other or you will end up drifting apart, he is being a bit selfish because he knows you cant go i hope things get better for you ,,cheers
2007-03-26 21:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust makes the relationship. I would be lying though if I told you your the first person I have heard this from as WE ALL go through it. What works for me is communicating and keeping in touch, not in obesessive amounts, but in what they are doing and setting boundries for each other in the relationship. Moving forward it will only get rockier; getting mad because they want to live there life with you and OTHERS in it should not be a curse on you and it will only push your relationship apart. You do not need to become less attached; you need to manage your feelings and ask yourself why do I feel this way? What specifically bothers me about each? If it is I am not with them then what can we do to make a connection (i.e. talk, communicate, plan, inform, be honest). If it goes down the road any further then it will get harder and you may want to look at breaking up until you can grow and mature; but we all have to learn. Heartache is apart of life!
2007-03-26 21:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by JMAGPF 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way and eventually I had to just let nature run it's course. The best thing I can say is don't try and be so involved with him that you lose track on other things such as your family friends and school. I know that sounds kindof nerdy but if you keep your time occupied in other things you won't worry as much.
2007-03-26 21:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by ~never again~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋