Ok, theres these 2 guys who ive been dating...the one guy i am absolutely infauated with...he gives me the flutters in my stomach, i love hanging out with him, and i feel a major connection with him...the problem is, he only wants to date...he doesnt want anything serious right now, which is ok for awhile, but i dont wanna have casual relationships my whole life.
The other guy wants something more serious...he has a good job, is older and more settled...and i like him...but not the way i like the other guy...i still enjoy hangin out with him and everything, but i dont get the flutters and stuff i do with guy #1...
Should i just continue to casually date both of them and see what happens? is that fair to either of them...and to me? or should i go with guy #1 and just see if things go well if he wants something more serious? or should i go with the more comfortable choice and choose guy #2? Any advice would be greatly appreciates...im a 22 yr old single mom too if that helps
2007-03-26 20:56:26 · 9 answers · asked by Jessica 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BEST ANSWER: Only Go with Guy #1-if he feels the same.
You Only Live Once, Flutter are the only thing to live for.... unless it's a one-way street, then you're setting yourself up for a tearful dump later on -OR- be emotionally controlled forever.
So, Now the Jealousy Test: Let Guy #1 see Guy #2's arm around you one day. If he freaks, then he TRULY cares!
Only If He Cared, would it get to him enough to at least come up to you within 72 hours, emotionally flustered...
If Not, then at least you were already in the arms of the better one of the two!!
2007-03-26 21:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by xx_the_foreseer 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all dating two guys at the same time can be VERY stressful and frustrating on yourself and your child. You aren't being fair to yourself or either of the guys, sometimes you just need to get real. Follow your heart. I am married and when you mention that tingly butterfly feeling I know what you mean, but if the guy is not willing to take it to the next level let it go. Maybe not completely try being friends because you know what they say, let it go and if it comes back it is meant to be. As for your second guy sounds like you two would make really good friends as being an older more "settled" he could be very helpful in other areas of your life, maybe an advisor or something. I wish you the best of luck b/c i know that is a pretty confusing...been there done that.
2007-03-26 21:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by ~never again~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Settling for guy #2 just because #1 isn't ready to settle, is actually pretty unfair to #2. How would he feel if he ever found out that he wasn't your first choice?
But being 22 with a child, means that it is time to find someone suitable to settle with as opposed to someone who might be a fling. Having a lot of temporary relationships will impact the way your child sees relationships. I don't want to go into developmental psychology, but it can really mess with your child when they grow to an adult.
2007-03-26 21:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are fine with dating guy #1... without commitments then go ahead. But obviously you already said you are not too keen in casual relationships after all.
I need not say more for guy #2.
Why don't you find another guy who can set your heart on fire and is also keen to stay committed in a love relationship with you... loving you and genuinely wanna to provide for you and your kid.
You are not limited only with 2.
2007-03-26 21:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by glitzynicole 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well don't keep going on with both or else that might end in a disaster. I would have to go with the guy with "flutters" if I had to pick one, because if you have no chemistry with guy #2 could you honestly imagine spending the rest of your life with him? I wouldn't recommend rushing guy #1 serious-ness wise, your young, enjoy life, let the cards unfold. =) good luck.
2007-03-26 21:02:19 · answer #5 · answered by Wiseguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope.. its not fair for any of u..
think u should go for de 2nd guy.. if u dun fancy ur current state a single mother (thought i admire ur courage to bring ur baby to dis world, u can do with a little bit of emotional support and protection for the both of u)
answer dis question n u mite have a clearer picture on things..
which guy treats ur child better(treat her/him like his own)?
hope dat has been able to help..
PEACE.
2007-03-26 21:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
please you gotta be kidding? the 1st one. cuz he grew to become right into a real pal you may dangle out with and be your self. the 2nd seems to be in basic terms a overwhelm and sounds like he might desire to become a playa. Bob might have an prolonged relationship with you and intensely significant the place as invoice may well be over in the previous it even gets started and he will probable ruin your heart....yet you verify
2016-10-20 12:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell number 1 you want more or you will move on, and see what happens.
if he doesn't agree, move on and try to find someone
that fits both
2007-03-26 21:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by myddad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY NOT HAVE SOME FUN---DATE BOTH TILL U DECIDE
2007-03-26 21:03:33 · answer #9 · answered by imneiflim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋