She has been with him for many years but they are not married. He has kids from a previous marriage and there are many issues with the kids and ex-wife. He is not a good father to his kids, and he has cheated on her numerous times. He is irresponsible.
I have tried just listening, and trying to show her that she doesnt deserve this guy. I know that just telling her "he is a loser" wont make her leave him, and will create distance between us.
Has anyone else been worried about a friend like this?
2007-03-26 20:55:30 · 8 answers · asked by fizzy stuff 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She fully knows about the other women. I just think she is blinded and doesnt realize how unhealthy the relationship is.
When she spent time with me & my man, she remarked how we dont fight and have a peaceful relationship. When she asked me for advice, I tried to tell her that he doesnt respect not only her, but everyone in his life! I think she knows where I stand, but I dont want to say it too strongly because Im worried that she will think I dont understand and then not be able to confide in me. And I want to be there for her.
2007-03-26 21:08:17 · update #1
You are a good friend to care so much. Unfortunately there is not much you can do. Try to talk to her in "scenarios", such as--What happens if you and he end up married, and he continues to cheat on you? What happens if you have children together, and he treats them the way he treats his other children? Do you realize that if you marry him, his ex-wife will be in your life until the children are grown?
Don't put him down, just give her some food for thought. Good Luck!!
2007-03-26 21:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every1 has a friend in a one sided relationship and being her friend you are always going to worry i know its hard but a good friend is always there to listen and wipe the tears in my personal experierance i learnt never to give advice unless it was asked for or she is just going to think that every1 is against her you need to assure her you are on her side, i know it is going to be hard for you watch but eventually she will see the light and get rid or on the other hand although he treats her bad if she loves him nothing you can do or say is going to change that, if you tlk her into breaking up with him, and then she is even more miserable than she is now how is that going to make you feel, i suppose for a while it is a no win situation for you, but i feel for you and i hope everything works out, maybe you could look at my question and give me a bit of advice i would really appreciate it!!! chin up hun x x
2007-03-27 04:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by confusedxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, very much so... Either she is afraid, or her self-esteem is so low, she feels she can't get anything any better. She will probably stay with him if she has already been with him for years. Sometimes these kinds of females makes this a way of life for them. Without being in therapy, they never leave-unless the guy throws them out, or beats the heck out of them. These men are control freaks and seem to control their woman's mind. It's awful, and you can't do anything but pray for the SICK couple!!
2007-03-27 04:07:30 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are in love and it is VERY hard to break off a relationship when love is involved. Why don't you record or video this man at the games he plays? You need proof so your friend will believe you.
Be brave and step up to his games and be her friend as when you have proof she will be VERY upset and need comfort for a while if she is that emotional sort.
2007-03-27 04:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by Gumby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't stop convincing her about this guy... but if she don't believe you then hire a detective to monitor this guy's house and everywhere he went and everything that he us doing... of course don't let her know this because if you let her know it...just do it... and show it to your friend it doesn't matter what will happened next you just do your part... that you just want to show her that she need to leave him than to suffer with him..
2007-03-27 04:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by rhean s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. well its enough and right that you give advice her for that but the decision mainly and only depends on her. just be with her. she'll soon realize how bad that guy is.
2007-03-27 04:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by yumemiya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah and take my advice tell her now before it is to late.
2007-03-27 04:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait ..unless your friend realize it by himself/herself...
2007-03-27 04:01:20 · answer #8 · answered by Manik 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋