From a 3 year relationship, he dumped me 3 months ago, well basicly ran away giving me this explanation "I feel unhappy, I don't know why, but I know I don't feel the same way about you." and so I had no contact ever since. Then a week ago he has started to contact me about this continually repeating how unhappy he was but doesn't know why. First by phone, then by message, I have started to ignore it and now by email. What's his problem, how am I supposed to move on with his crap, I told him to go away that I accepted the break up, and everytime he contacts me its like he wants to mentally torture my self esteem.
2007-03-26 20:42:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's now questioning me why the relationship didnt work
2007-03-26 20:58:12 · update #1
My guess is that he is doing this to bolster HIS self esteem and convince himself that the unhappiness he was feeling was directly related to you. Given the small snapshot of his personality, it seems as if this guy just isn't relationship material. It was destined to end eventually. I am surprised that you didn't end it. He probably took it upon himself to end it so that he wouldn't have to deal with the hurt feelings and broken heart.
How to move on, you just do. First of all, accept it as being over. He wanted out so let him have that. Now it is time to get on with your own life. Do the things that you couldn't do when you were in the relationship. Go out with the girls, see that movie he wouldn't take you to. Travel. Dress like a slob because you have nobody to impress but you. Get involved in charity work. It gives you a chance to do something good for someone else and it will fill your calendar so when he calls you can tell him "I have plans". It will also put you in group and public situations where it will be near impossible for him to harrass or harm you. Who knows, you might even meet someone a little bit more mature and compatable for you.
If he is still unhappy, tell him that he needs to seek help from a therapist or a clergyperson. They can provide better insight as to why he is unhappy and how to deal with it. They are professionals and you are not.
Right now, what he is doing almost resembles stalking. If it gets to the point where you fear for your own safety, talk to your local law enforcement agency about how to get a restraining order. Start keeping logs of when he calls and keep copies of the e-mails he sends as proof. Good luck and take care of you.
2007-03-26 21:19:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two options: he either feels bad about the way he left things and needs your forgiveness, in which case I would advise that you tell him that you've moved on, you forgive him and wish him luck with whatever he has planned for his future. You'll benefit most from forgiving him.
The second option is that he wants you back and is trying to worm his way back into your life. Don't give him a chance to drag you down, so tell him you're doing great and then keep ignoring him.
;)
2007-03-27 04:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by sexybabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has serious problems that maybe you shouldn't ignore. It seems like he needs to talk to someone. That someone would be you. Try seeing why he is unhappy, what he wants but if things get too way out of hand that he keeps on harrassing you I suggest you phone the police(Your last resort) or get help for him or yourself by a help line.
2007-03-27 03:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by Gumby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what it sounds like--torture. Maybe he feels bad, even though he doesn;t want you, but you're supposed to make him feel better about it at your own expense?? I hope that's not the case.
2007-03-27 03:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by Carhop3000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's an Aquarius then you will need to move out of the country, seriously!
2007-03-27 03:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by GoodGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't wnt you, but he wants to keep you on a hook. Tell him that you are interested in someone else, and you would appreciate it if he left you alone. If he doesn't, tell him that it was his decision to split, now live with it!
2007-03-27 03:53:38 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont just ignore the guy, let him know how you feel.... tell him to leave you the hell alone, have you even tried that ?
2007-03-27 03:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by Rºññèè 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, you did the right thing!!!!!
tell him "to take hike!!!!!!"
he deserves to be miserable, if that's what he really feels!!!!
you know what??? it's his loss!!!!
hehehehehe!!!!!!!
2007-03-27 03:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by Besy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋