I was in a serous relationship for 18 years ( since high school) and now find myself back on the dating scene. I never had the practice at flirting as most people do during their teens early 20's. Any tips?
2007-03-26 20:33:26 · 15 answers · asked by blackcatmingus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no I am no longer married, hence the return to the dating game.
2007-03-26 22:14:18 · update #1
Hey good luck with that! I know how strange and scary it must feel.
I'd say flirting is like learning to ride a bike. How did you meet your (ex?) partner in high school? Did you flirt with them? Did you flirt with other people at the time? Some people are just natural flirts while others need to develop their own style.
I think it's best if you start by trying to be social with friends without thinking about potential romantic opportunities. Observe. Relax. Give people a chance. Sometimes it's easy to be very choosey when in this situation. Give people a chance (ok, give decent, safe people a chance). We never buy the first house we see...for a reason! Going on boring dates, on dates from hell or nice dates that never work out is all part of the "training" and the discovering what you really need and want in someone. Not to mention it might all go in the autobiography later...
Basically, be social, be pleasant, be graceful, take care of yourself and hopefully you'll find the rest on the way. You might actually end up enjoying it too much! I hope you do...x
Good luck!
2007-03-26 20:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by syliamarina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is what happens naturally when you like someone. It is not something specific that you think about beforehand and then say or do later. When you meet someone and the attraction is mutual just let it flow.
In general, you should watch your language - no sexual references - unless you want to be seen as a one night stand.
You want to refrain from sexual references because you may change your mind about him as time moves on. You don't want to lead anyone on. Also refrain from dicussing past relationships or boyfriends or dates. It's a turn-off.
All in all it's a lot like it was when you were on the playground as a child. If a boy likes you he will pull your hair and make fun of you and push you. If you like him you'll chase after him and push back. :)
2007-03-26 20:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, use our technology to help you.
Use email, cell phone, etc. to help you with someone that you have your eye on. Tell him you are into (such and such) and maybe give your email out so that he could write to you.
Flirting now seems as much important as in person as it does online.
I never flirt with someone I don't know, and if I am in a position to flirt personally, then I remind that slimebag that I'm married.
Use your creativity, but be aware of the many jerks online that want to scam you or use you for some way or another.
Hopefully you will find someone in person than if you try using the internet for a date, but I'm hoping for you....:-) You sound like if I knew you personally you would be my best friend.
2007-03-26 20:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh damn......
This is what I'm talkin' bout.
Listen close baby, follow these three steps:
1. Act Natural
2. Eye Contact
3. Smile (make sure you got some white grills I mean teeth)
All other stuff are optional and you can be creative..
Peace
2007-03-26 20:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself um don't be too touchy unless that's the impression you are going for, heeheeh sounds a little silly but the eyes are the biggest way to flirt and how you carry yourself as well
-happy flirtings! :)
2007-03-26 20:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by yvonne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi black cat,
are u married or not i do not know. but after 18 yrs u are thinking of flirting. there is something wrong with u. of course u can flirt at this age also, but at ur own risk. enjoy the life!
2007-03-26 20:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by amarnath 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go to the bookstore and look thru the flirting books, there are some good ones. "the good girls guide to bad girl sex" and, if you want to do more than just flirt, "the art of seduction" is an absolutely amazing book. its like machiavelli for dating. sorry i forgot the authors, u can still find them...
2007-03-26 20:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by F 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hang out at the bars with the 50 year old newly divorced men, being a new piece of meat you won't have to flirt at all.
2007-03-26 20:43:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Always use proper social skills and graces. Smile every now and then, let the person know you enjoy their company. Most of all, be confident and be yourself!
2007-03-26 20:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes ..be confident and just be in "yourself" and believe in yourself...there is no hard and fast rule in manuals and childrens' school books on how to flirt...it comes to one from oneself..
2007-03-26 20:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by Manik 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋