Why do I feel like I want to die?

Question

First, I'm not suicidal. I don't sit around thinking of taking my own life. Life is pretty good at the moment. But there is a part of me that feels that if someone, for example, told me I only have a month to live I would feel tremendous relief. I also sometimes get little twinges of chest pain that are probably nothing, but I almost hope that I'm having a heart attack. I sometimes feel like I would be better off dying before I lose the things and the people close to me- my parents, my husband, etc. Does anyone else ever feel this way? What can I do to make sense of all of this.

And I'm not a religious person so, please, no preaching.

Answer 1

Believe it or not, you are not alone. I have the same feelings and chest pains. I am feeling overwhelmed.

Are you stressed or having anxiety issues? This is probably a great sign that you are not happy with what you are doing and need to change something.

You must dismiss those thoughts as soon as they come into your mind. Everytime the thought enters your mind, dismiss it imediately and replace it with a positive thought.

I am not a religious person either. I do not like to be preached to either. I am not against most religions, but I do believe in the power of believing.

A great book to read is called, "The Magic of Believing" by Claude Bristol

Have you heard of affirmations? Affirmations are very powerful. Many great business leaders use affirmations. There are many books and websites on the subject. You have heard of "ask and you shall receive". That is an affirmation! Your negative thoughts are an affirmation, as well. Do a search on the internet for "positive affirmations" Pick an affirmation(s) and say it everyday or create your own affirmations.

Here are just a few websites:
http://www.successconsciousness.com/index_00000a.htm
http://www.coping.org/growth/affirm.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Affirmation
http://www.bmindful.com/
http://www.dailyaffirm.com/
http://www.vitalaffirmations.com/

In the mean time, ask yourself everyday, "I want to know what I want." Say it several times throughout the day.

The answers will come to you.

Thank you for your question. It was nice to read something that I have been feeling and know what I need to do. You see I have watched great things happen in my life and watched my life fall apart. I know what thoughts were going through my mind during those times. I created both worlds and need to pick myself up again.

Another great author/speaker is Louise Hay. She has had a bad life and turned her life around. She has come a long way. You can view her website at: http://www.hayhouse.com/ If you have speakers on your computer you can listen to their talk radio at: http://www.hayhouseradio.com/hosts.php?author_id=401

Good Luck to you!! I hope you at least investigate affirmations and hopefully be able to apply them in your life.

Answer 2

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Why do I feel like I want to die?
First, I'm not suicidal. I don't sit around thinking of taking my own life. Life is pretty good at the moment. But there is a part of me that feels that if someone, for example, told me I only have a month to live I would feel tremendous relief. I also sometimes get little twinges of chest...

Answer 3

I ever felt this way too... though my life was wonderful at that time n i lacked for nothing... However , i started to feel better when i got myself engage in some activities n sports...^^ I think maybe ur subconscious mind feels that ur lfe is too "ordinary" n thus becoming meaningless n due to this u feel that u`re better off if u die... btw,why dont u keep urself occupied with doing something meaningful or something u like... Do u know that life is very precious so that we should not have the thought of ending it at all.... we`re already fortunate to be born as a normal n healthy person n b`coz of this we should cherish our life more... try to set a goal in ur life n achieve it... u`ll feel better in this way... wish u all the best...

Answer 4

Sometimes we all feel that despair and helplessness, and the natural response is to ESCAPE and cope with that feeling. But not to worry! This is a perfectly normal feeling, and we all reach that stage whether we like it or not. But think of THIS. Life is such a gem, it's such a rarity that we are the only things in this known universe that possess this ability to think, feel, and make decisions. When you die, you don't have that chance to be happy anymore, to experience the rarity and beauty of life. The fact that life doesn't last very long makes it even more special! Why lament when you yourself are a miracle of life! Everything about you is blessed...take the opportunity to sit down and just observe its magnificence.

Answer 5

Yes even sometimes I feel the same. I feel that the world is moving so fast.This inferiority complex makes me feel like a jerk.I think the best thing you can do to stop this is go on a picnic , treking , go out with your friends etc........... If you have a problem with your family or friends or anyone just try to talk to them. If it did not work out , go out of station or for treking where no one knows you . Chat in the computer and make new friends.Remember the happiest movement you had in your life, write the happiest movement you had in your life.And daily read it.You feel like dieing because of all the fustration

Answer 6

A part of you feels depressed and purposeless, without a real happiness or satisfaction. A sort of ennui has settled over you and that could make you long for a change and death is a big change! In any case, I am glad that you are not suicidal, so you won't try to end it all that way.

Since you mentioned that you are not religious, I won't try to preach you, but have you considered the option of being spiritual without being religious?

Answer 7

To me, you seem to have some anxieties bothering you. You felt the little twinges of chest pain, which was probably you getting or almost getting a panic attack.

It seems to me like you may have a fear of abandonment, which is why you don't want your loved ones to ever die before you. You must ask yourself why you feel like you wouldn't cope without your loved ones in your life.

I'm sure that you could cope and still manage to live a good life even if you lost a loved one. If you still cannot imagine yourself living a complete, full life, if one of them passed on, then you might want to seek some counseling to help you deal with the fear of abandonment and why it's causing your anxieties. Did you recently experience a tragic, life-threatening situation? If so, seek counseling to deal with it, too.

Answer 8

First, let me say that if you can ask a questions with so much details you have answer right in this question.

You said it - you are "feeling like would it better... " So you wish to change something what you dont know how to do it ... you must find another and better way - not by dieing ! :) And you will find it i am sure ...

Answer 9

A constant or periodic feeling to die is often in connection with some mental disorders. A psychiatrist or clinical psychologist would be the best to visit and speak up.Do not underestimate it.

Answer 10

Okay. I am religious, but the extent of my religious pitch is this--I love all people who care about others, and I see that in you. And--forgive me--I think God loves you as well.

You sound to me like you might have a little bit of a problem with depression. Religion aside, life is too precious to be cast aside like an old item of clothing you don't like any more.

Maybe I see a little bit of self-pity. It goes with depression.

One valuable part of religion is that it does teach you to value yourself and to even love yourself a little bit. You don't have to be religious, but I think you need to see your own self-worth, and your value to others.

It isn't all that unusual, and--believe it or not--it isn't a flaw in your character. And it is treatable.

You may not see it, but people love you. See someone. If you were religious I would suggest clergy, but since you aren't get some medical help.

You can't get back one minute you've already lived. All you have is what you have now and what lies ahead of you. You deserve to be able to enjoy it.