I recently started talking to an old friend of mine after not talking for 2 years. We have been intimate once before, but on the DL. Now that he has been single for a few months, and me for 2 years, we are about to start a friends with benefits thing. I am not ready for a relationship, I was in one for 8 years with the first person I was ever with. Now I'm ready to explore. And he is also not ready for a relationship, since he is just coming out of one. Is this a good idea? or will it get out of control?
2007-03-26 20:23:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just as long as you both understand the ground rules, that this is fwb and not a relationship, i guess it's fine. But as soon as one of you realises that you want something more, you'd better hope the other one wants the same or else a heart's going to be broken. Good luck
2007-03-26 20:52:16 · answer #1 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The healthiest relationships and longest lasting, by and large begin as friendships. The reason is if you just hook up with someone out of the blue, you havn't had time to learn much about them. Thier likes, dislikes, quirks, politics, beliefs, habits that may annoy you. If you are very good friends with someone ahead of time, and you click well, then you most likely know all that about them, and you can make a better judgement on whether you'd be able to handle being in a relationship with them. However the down side is, I have a girl whom I've liked for quite sometime, but it's gotten to the point where I'm more of a brother to her than possible date material, so you could get to the point where pursuing a relationship with a friend could ruin the friendship all together.
2007-03-26 20:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by i_amme_ur_not 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is something you need to ask yourself. there are major consequences that can come out of a relationship with a friend but at the same time there are major benefits. the thing you need to be focused on is what if it doesn't work out, how will your relationship continue and what happens when you start to have deep feelings for this person. all i can really tell you is to take your time and go with whatever feels right.
2007-03-26 20:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by hottie hot hot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible to start a relationship as friends, yes... but friends with benefits is ALWAYS a bad idea... you lose his respect... why do you want him to know you're easy? (if you're screwing him without any commitment, he doesn't THINK you're easy... he KNOWS you are)... If he is great, he's worth the wait and the work... get your life together, let him get his life together... be friends, and if you're both interested in a real relationship once you're both past the former relationships then give it a try...
2007-03-26 20:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes thats if you are lucky,those kinda relationships are few and far between.i feel that the fact that he is not open about your relatioship he is not that into you such tha he would let everyone know that you are dating.sory to say this but it seems like you only gud enough for sex ,he is making excuses that he is not ready for any kind of relationship.gal you can do exploration but dont expect anything more than that
2007-03-26 20:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by boomkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good friends make better lovers.
2007-03-26 21:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by crazycul1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is possible
2007-03-26 21:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it
2007-03-26 20:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by Angad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋