bedtime.........?

Question

my 12 and 13 year old sons are complaining about there bedtime. they go to bed 9.00pm. what would you say

Answer 1

Arrange "Family Time" at nine sit them down and watch a movie (of your choice that they will find utterly boring), read together, or talk. Faced with this attempt at communication they will be begging for bed time.

Answer 2

Children like choices, as if they chose it then they will adhere to it. You can say to them, when would you prefer to go to bed, 9:00, and then you can read, listen to some music, or work on your puzzle for 15 or 20 minuets, or would you rather go to bed at 9:15 or 9:30, but then it is lights out.

The 15 or half hour difference will not make them or break them, but it will make bedtime much more pleasant for them.

I just gave you an example. But I am sure you got the Idea.
You can also offer them some type of reward if they do keep to the 9:00 regiment. But it is up to you to decide.

The main thing is, is that bedtime has to be a relaxing experience, not a tug of war.

Sleep tight, and good luck.

Answer 3

Well I would say at 12 and 13 if they really want to change that bedtime, they could take on a few chores for each hour on weekends to stay up for but make their bedtime during the week of school 10pm. On weekends I would say midnight would be best.

Answer 4

Hi, your 13 year old is not far from high school and a 9pm bedtime is really early. Think about it, isn't he/she in like 8th grade at this point? Next year should be 9th and high school. It should be at least 10. By the time I got to high school I didn't have a bed time, which I think it normal. They aren' t little kids anymore.

Answer 5

Do they have problems getting up in the morning for school when they go to bed at 9? If not try extending it by 30 min. Remember they are getting older and want to experience adolescence. If they do well with going to bed a little later then keep it that way, if not then move it back down to 9. Let them know that they have to get up when told or their privilege will be taken away.

Answer 6

my 13 year old is in bed by 9pm too. my 15 year old nephew is in bed by 9:30. I think it's good it shows structure. Besides there's nothing appropriate for kids on t.v after 9 anyway

Answer 7

This worked on me when I was young, and worked on my kids when THEY were young.....TRY IT!!!
No "disruptive activity" after 9:00 p.m.
No TV, no phone calls, no loud music---all is quiet in the house from 9 o'clock on, on school nights. On weekends, extend it to 10 p.m. or later, depending on what your family normally does.
Everyone under age 21 is in their room, bathed, blown dry, brushed, and prepared for the routine of the next morning.
If they choose to sleep with music blaring directly into their own eardrums via headphones, allow it! If they choose to read a book all night, allow it!
Bottom line is, they have free reign of their own time except for this ONE THING: they MUST get up and be prepared for the day ahaead (ie, homework is done, clothes are chosen/ready for school, dont miss the bus etc)
I found that I ran my own life well, when allowed to do so, and I allowed my own kids to do the same when they were over the age of 12.
If a child cannot perform his duties when left to his own devices, he mustthen allow his parents to dictate his evenings. If he can stay up "late" with Letterman and still perform, he has earned the right to do as he chooses after his obligations are met.

It worked for me, and for mine.....
GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 8

I hae a 10 year old and her bed time is 10 pm

Answer 9

a lot of research indicates teenagers have a natural biological tendency to be more awake/alert and night and not want to go to sleep until later.

That may help explain the problem, but I don't know if/how to help solve it. You can try to make sure they don't drink any caffiene or eat much sugar in the evenings.

Answer 10

Well I would start them off wiht 30 extra minute and see how they handle it and really it is all acording to the time they have to get up. some kids need extra sleep ,some need only 8 hours .