My best friend and i are close and have been cool for three years - just recently found out that we BOTH have deep feelings for each other (he's liked me "forever") but decided that there's too much on our plate right now - when the time is RIGHT, it will happen. WE DECIDED TO KEEP BEING FRIENDS.
Right now we're just kinda taking it slow and trying to be "normal" with each other - I know i'm doing okay but he's been "not normal" - i heard it's because he still likes me and doesn't what to do and how to act. It's kinda like when you have a thing for someone, you don't know how to be yourself.
How do i get him to be normal with me again? Do i need to keep reassuring him?
PS: he's the shy guy type
2007-03-26 20:00:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
everything tied together when you mentioned that he's the "shy" type.
it take time, trust me. Do more things together that will help him learn how to cope and relate and simply be with you. It depends on what he likes doing. If he likes sports, play something like badminton or tennis, not basketball. In this way, he'll get the "exercise" he needs to learn how to cope with you.
the key is also to not make him ever feel embaressed. Like when he does something dumb, for example, don't look embaressed to be around him (I don't know you, but i'm saying this just in case). Act normal and be a good example for him.
It would also make things more clear if you simply discussed in a straighforward manner that you both admit to liking each other...it might make him less worried of losing you.
P.S.: most men internalize their emotions, so try to encourage him to open up to you if he naturally doesn't.
Other then that..it takes time! :)
2007-03-26 20:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you have a guy that isn't acting normal--what is normal for him?? You both must have had a talk and it made this guy uncomfortable---it would make almost anyone act different---he became self conscious about it and him---give it time and he will settle down. If not, ignore it--you could be misreading stuff, too. Taking a relationship to a higher level is a big step---and a step that will not go backwards---so slow down and take your time--stop thinking about it--find something to do and relax. Priortize your young life--this guy is NOT a priority when school and family and future plans are in your head. Start thinking about YOUR future, now. If he fits into the plan--fine--if not---too bad---it is YOUR life and you have to live it---so get a grip and get going. Good luck
2007-03-26 20:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is 'too much on our plate right now'? if he's liked you "forever" he should be jumping at the chance to be with you. Advice from a shy guy: when you all were talking about this he was probably uncomfortable and wanted to get out of the conversation. in doing so, shot himself in the foot and didn't ask you out, and is confused by 'keep being friends' and afraid to take it to the next level. at some point you have to choose, friend or more than friends. when you decide more than friends you'll have to make the move and ask him out. if you wait for him more than likely he'll never gather the courage to ask. as for normal now, get use to the new norm.
2007-03-26 20:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by akd2486 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your best friend. Talk to him. Ask him what is up.
I hope that you realize it is not going to be easy for him not to show his feelings. Just let him know how you would like things to be, and ask him what you can do to help work it out. He can't read your mind. He obviously needs you to give him an indication of how you think that the two of you should act.
2007-03-26 20:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be your self. Don't check out too rough. Just get unfastened round men. It'll make you look rough-to-get, and simply make it appear like you do not care approximately what is going on, and men love that. They'd get towards you. So, whilst a boy methods you, check out to not be that clumsy, or all that rough-to-get stuff will simply be vain. Think of him as a brother, cousin, uncle, and many others. And simply preserve it to your self. That'll support you check out to behave traditional round men.
2016-09-05 17:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by stoll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit him down and be firm with him be like "look, you already know that I like you so there is nothing to worry about." and assure him he doesn't have to change now that your feelings are out in the open. and tell him it would make this whole thing much less of a "deal" if stopped acting up.
2007-03-26 20:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by LuvUrGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to act "Normal as usual"around him. he will come around. i can imagine it would be hard. Good luck.
2007-03-26 20:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by ejwdgb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start farting around him.
tell him your preferred method of birth control is--abortion.
fix him up with a really great girlfriend.
you'll do none of these things, because you're leading him on.
everybody likes having a puppy dog...
2007-03-26 20:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by CaesarsGhost 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whats wrong in admitting and being lovers?
y do u want to keep denying it?
afraid of committment?
2007-03-26 20:03:58 · answer #9 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with him, and tell him that he should act normal like you do, also try and teach him............
2007-03-26 20:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by CL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋