how can I help him, he is a man now but he is still my Lil. boy? I don't want him to think he can't handle it.
2007-03-26 19:45:41 · 5 answers · asked by sandy.d 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Did you handle it when you moved out on your own? You raised him, and it sounds like you did a damn good job. He's 20 years old, a college graduate, and starting a career.
Do you know how many parents wish there babyboomers would move the hell out of the house and get a job?
Great job you're doing there mom.... and yes, he will always be your little boy. ((((hug)))))
2007-03-30 16:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a mom but a guy who recently graduated so maybe I can shed some light on things from his perspective. Just let him know you're there for him no matter what. Best piece of mind my parents ever gave me was they would support me financially if need be. I knew if I needed help to pay the light bills or get some food it was there, but as a man I would only ask for help in dire situations, which thankfully I never needed help. It still took a huge load off my mind and helped me find a decent job rather than rush to the first offer I got. Ask him to call weekly or so and if he doesn't, make sure you call him. I'm 24, I live a 14 hour drive from my parents but I still really like talkig to them. Yeah if I have friends over for hot dogs on the grill and some beers, I don't really want to talk to my mom then. Normally though once or twice a week is great. Sometimes we also forget to call on a regular basis, because really, adjusting to a new life change can be hard and we can forget. In that case, just give him a call and if he doesn't answer leave a message. Most of all though, you raised a son that graduated college. Obviously you did a fine job as a mother and I'm sure he'll do well.
2007-03-26 19:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You shoul talk to him sooner......but it's never too late, write him a letter and have him promise to stick it to the refrigerator door for two weeks at least.
Tell him all your worries and that you are sure he will make the best decisions, be honest, he old enough to handle it, write some advices that will help him handle things if he gets or does the things you worry about.
He will not think he can't handle it, because in the first place, you let him go after his dreams.
Good Luck.
2007-03-26 19:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by MARIA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help him by letting him know he will succeed in his new career, and you have all the confidence in him. Let him know how proud you are of him.
Also let him know that you will always be there for him, in any way, shape, or form. He can always depend on you.
But you have to cut the apron strings. I know it is hard, I have 7 boys, and my baby will always be my Lil.boy. He is 28 years old now with 3 children. Allot of times I just have to bite my tongue and remember that he is not my baby anymore.
You did a great job with him, and I am sure you already know what I answered. You just needed reassurance, as all moms do.
2007-03-26 20:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to him about that
2007-03-26 20:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by KaTt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋