the man shall borne all the responsible for the cost to get married or woman shall contribute the cost as well?
my husband to be almost broke for this coming wedding preparation but refuse my help to bear some cost.. what should i do
2007-03-26 19:38:48 · 23 answers · asked by lost woman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
this financial stress already make him become very hot temper and it always cause disharmony between us. he doesnt want to use bride's money or bride parents' money..
(the culture here is majority of the bridegroom bears the cost)
2007-03-26 20:00:52 · update #1
Have a serious talk with him. He may be trying to show you how much he loves you by acting this way. He may also be afraid that you will think that he can't be a good provider if he can't even pay for the wedding. Men have "egos". It is a horrible thing for us to have, but we don't know how to get rid of them.
Tell him how much you love him and that this is your day, so it is only right that you contribute to it. Also, after you are married, you will be planning everything together. Your lives will be shared. Isn't it better to begin the sharing now?
Just remember to try to do it while at the same time making him feel like "the provider" of the family.
2007-03-26 19:58:32 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is the culture, don't shame him, but try in all the ways you can to keep the costs down. Don't add extravagant things to the wedding; insist that your family not make it more difficult on him either.
One idea, but I'm not sure it would be acceptable. What if your father or mother offered some money for the wedding, would he accept that? It could be your money coming to him from your parents? But maybe that would shame him also, I don't know your culture.
2007-03-26 22:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What law is he following. I would suggest you two get married TOGETHER, not something you, or he wants to do.
Share the cost. My husband went in debt with credit but by the next year he was able to pay it off. This is not ancient times where the woman's parents had to pay for everything to try to get their daughter married. This is now and hopefully youv'e met a responsible man who can afford to have you with him.
Sounds like some miscommunication or some deadbeat'ness.
2007-03-26 19:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a totally different culture, and some people are just too proud to accept help or to go against their cultural obligation. Perhaps your father could speak to the bride groom and offer help in a more subtle way?
2007-03-26 20:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always heard that traditionally the bride's family pays for the wedding. (I think that's what you're asking?) But I personally believe that the cost should be shared.
2007-03-26 19:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by lovely 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In India women were forced to pay for their wedding and its call dowry which girls parent have to pay. In western culture its share in most cases. If marriage is entering a partnership then why not? But it should not be forced. Spartan
2007-03-26 19:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by Spartan Total Warrior 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The cost for the woman is containing the baby in her stomach for 9 months
2007-03-26 19:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by aggweg r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how it is in other countries, but in the US usually the bride's parents are supposed to pay for the majority of the wedding. But my daughter and her fiance are paying for the majority of it themselves...but they are paying for it together not one or the other...both.
2007-03-26 19:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mich Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't have a wedding you can't afford first off.... and both the bride and groom should share the cost.
2007-03-27 02:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you guys share money once you are married?? Why not put the money aside in a savings account, and then once you are married pay off the bills with it.
That way its technically his money too hes paying with :)
2007-03-26 21:09:16 · answer #10 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋