Please help me and pray for my boyfriend. We have been dating since we were 14 and now we are 22. We don’t live together if you’re wondering. I am a good Christian and he has accepted God. He even stopped drinking at one point and has started doing it as a form of relief when we get into serious arguments late at night. What he does is, drive off and get drunk with old friends that always call him for drinking. He does this about every 8 months. He use to do it every night before he became a Christian. He is a good man don’t get me wrong but, he this is his weakness. I don’t want to marry and have children with a man who behaves this way. Please pray for convection in his heart, or give me hope. I am so sad and in tears because I am running out hope.
2007-03-26 19:36:16 · 25 answers · asked by Stephanie 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
God can do more than you can ask or think! Dont lose hope maybe God has another plan for you and he is seperating him from you by revealing the deeper character, keep praying without ceasin but eventully you have to say later! Because his goals and your goals are not the same, here this will give you hope:
http://www.freedomcame.com/glory/
2007-03-26 19:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by bungyow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him how you feel about what he's doing. Pray about, of course, but you can't just pray that God will make it okay and not take an active role in trying to fix the problem. Let him know that you can't live with him if he's going to do this periodically, and if love's really there, he'll straighten up (with God's help). If not, you sound like you've already made a decision about it, and God may be leading you to a place where you will have to choose whether to live with him and his behavior, or follow your heart. It's a long time to be in a relationship and have to end it, but you know what you want and need, and if he's not willing to provide that for you, you can't stay, and God will make it alright for both of you, regardless of what happens. All things work to the good of them that love Him. ALL THINGS. Have faith, little sister. You are not ever alone.
2007-03-27 02:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Steve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't run out of hope! That's the evil one. Just keep doing right and praying and believing. Some prayers take longer...especially those that involves changing another person's heart. Your job is to love Him and for him to see the Love of Christ. You model that for him always. Try to be at peace and not fight with him about it. That seems to have the opposite effect that you want. Blessings, Jenny
2007-03-27 02:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I'm sorry, but you're right you do not want to marry him unless he changes. What he is doing is worse than just his drinking. He is manipulating you because you always have the threat hanging over your head that he will run off and get drunk if you get in a fight. So you have to always be careful not to get him mad - or else. Maybe he should go to an AA meeting instead. Just don't marry him unless he changes!
2007-03-27 02:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by Daisy Indigo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will certainly pray that he is able to overcome this desire for alcohol and that he learns to deal with stress in other ways. i will also pray for your relationship so that you two can stop fighting so much.
Ask yourself, though, if you believe he will ever really change, and if not can you live with this type of behavior. I really encourage you to figure this out before you guys get married because you shouldn't marry him to change him (even though you certainly want to see him change and be more like Christ day by day). Is he really a Christian? Has he made a sincere decision to accept Christ as his savior?
2007-03-27 02:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by attacksheep74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will pray for you. Are you positive that this is the man that God will join you with in matrimony? "what GOD has joined together....." Too many marriages are not joined together by God, but by flesh. He always has the right one for you and you will love him more than you could imagine. God may be trying to show you something. If this man is 'the one'. Just be patient. Trust the Lord and He will show you. Please deal with him as Christ would. How you deal with it will determine how long you have to deal with it! God bless you!
2007-03-27 08:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by jomi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Any time...I would like to pray for you aswell and when you pray ask in the name of Jesus. He is our Mediator to God. God has got a plan for him, don't worry. Pray for him and leave it in God's hands. Dont stress about it any longer. God will work with him in His time not ours.
God bless
2007-03-27 02:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Stephanie,
Will pray for you and your boyfriend. You should probably encourage him to get involved in a small group and as you guys move closer to getting married attend bible studies together so that you can build a foundation in Christ- and he can be the spiritual leader in your home.
Hang in there- you have the body of Christ to pray for and support you.
Kindly,
Nickster
2007-03-27 02:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by Nickster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone who truly care and is reading the request of this young lady. LET US PRAY: RIGHT NOW!
Father, merciful, kind, and gracious is who you are. We come to you in the name of our Lord and savior, Jesus Christ. We thank you for answering the prayers of your children. We thank you right now that no matter how far your children go you hear our cries. Lord, this is your son and he still a baby and you know what is going on in his life that he feels that he cannot discuss with the young lady you have blessed him with. Give him wise and godly counsel. Run to him right now where he is and arrest him in the spirit and save his downcast soul. His heart is crying, help him. Deliver him from these demons that keep trying to steal his hope, and kill him. Father, protect both of these young people from the devourer. You are strong when we are weak and help him to see that you are fully able to do more than we could ever hope for or see. Father, thank you for rebuking that spirit of strife, fear, hoplessness, self mutilation, suicide, and all other things that are trying to trip these young people on their journey. We thank you for restoring everything the cankerworm has eaten. Thank you for this young man's soul be forgiven and his name being written in the lamb's book of life. We thank you for filling them with your spirit and giving them your power and them seeing that they have that power. We love and praise your wonderful name. Amen.
Be Blessed, write me if you need to. Good night my brothers and sisters.
2007-03-27 02:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about your feelings on it. I bet he will cut back on the drinking for you. My boyfriend did it, hasn't touched a drink in three years. But of course I will pray for your hopes to regain! Just relax and it will work out as it is planned. :)
2007-03-27 02:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by ~Les~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋