its been 4 years that i do not have a boyfriend and the last one was just plain stupid.. i am not saying that i am not that good looking but i am...it's just plain weird why there is no one there who really likes me as who i am.. i am not desperate to have a boyfriend, i am just curious why i do not have one...the one that would love me for who i am..please help me out here...thanks..
2007-03-26 19:34:50 · 12 answers · asked by Xena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you havent been putting yourself out there. You should get a group of friends and go have fun. Dont go man searching because you dont want to be desperate. The right man will come to soon enough it just takes tim. Explore diffrent place if you always go to one mall then go to a diffretn one. Theres plenty of men out there single sure youre not just going to come across your soulmate but it takes time to find that perfect somone out there that you want to spend your time with. Dont give up. Im sure you are good looking so all the uys that pass you up are retards. Dont put your self down because of that you have a lot of time left. :) hope i helped you... PEACE
2007-03-26 19:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by weirdskullchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about not having a boy-friend. Do self-admiration exersice, for example stand in front of the mirror and say: "I am beautiful and you see it", and there are some other white magick tricks that you can do. How old are you? Guys become mature later than girls, so enjoy your single life. Meet people and ur prince will come or may be he's already came and u just need to open ur eyes ;-).
2007-04-04 02:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by Irene M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to crush your dreams but I will be totally honest with you. The man of your dreams isnt coming. Dont expect the white knight on the horse, but dont think that love cant happen, he just wont be as perfect as you expect. He'll pick his nose, throw his dirty underwear on the floor, not listen to you, act like you dont listen to him, somedays you'll even SWEAR you hate him, but then there WILL be those days that you realize there is no perfect person who caters to you 24/7 and you'll have to be satisfied in that. It sounds worse than it is really. So stop looking for Mr Perfect and look for someone who you can "put up with". It may take alot of tries but Im sure you'll find someone someday probably when you least expect it. Just remember he is an imperfect person as you are.
2007-04-03 11:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by Newtron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll get tired and maybe get disappointed if you count years of not having one . One day you'll find a good and more deserving guy w/c i think will love you for who you are. But first, just know yourself better, I know you have the answer in your heart, let it out, and start a new way of living, look at the things w/c you think will serve you good.
Not all guys are craving for the most sexiest girl in town and have them as their GF, but for some, they look more in the inside of that girl, mean to say, beauty is just a front, but being sweet, funny, honest etc. are the keys to have a good and healthy relationship.
2007-04-04 00:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by beybi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not desperate.....I was in the same position that you are in. Even though it may seem as though no guy likes you or aren't paying attention to you, don't worry because they are. Guys have this subtle way of letting a girl know that they like someone because they are just afraid as girls, of being turned down by someone that you really like. So, in the end a guy might really like you, it's just he might not know how you are going to react when he approaches you. Think about not how you look or your physical features, but about how you carry yourself as a girl, it might work!
2007-04-04 01:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by sMarTie_gUrl001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's in how you do or do not communicate. If you want a BF (which it seems you do) then you need to look at what you are communicating verbally and non-verbally (e.g. from your body language). It's unlikely the man of your dreams will just turn up if the last BF you had was 'stupid' and that was 4 years ago. Sometimes we have to take action ourselves, particularly if what one has been previously been doing has not given us our desired outcome.
Relationships are important and we have to take responsibility for them if you are serious about the quality of the person you want to be involved with. This means knowing what you want and consciously working to get to your destination rather than hoping to just get lucky. Imagine you ask the pilot who is flying your plane how he knows how to reach your destination and he replies "I don't know, maybe we'll get lucky".
You have to let people know you are interested e.g. by telling them you are going to such and such a place and tell them/let them know they can come along.
Non-verbally, try letting guys you know you like them more obviously e.g by holding eye contact longer than usual, by touching them briefly as you talk, smiling.
If the last one you had was stupid and you see people who do interest you and they are not pursuing you then you will have to let them know you are interested more obviously.
If you have not had a BF in 4 years then there is something in your communication that needs to be changed. You might be coming across as unapproachable (you then need to let them know you are open to being interacted with by opening them first rather than hoping someone will talk to you first) and also being receptive in your conversation, offers and body language to show you are interested in the person.
I'll try to offer more help if you want to give more details on your thoughts after considering these points of mine.
2007-03-27 02:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by Steve The Rookie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think alot of times the questions that people ask can be answered when were honest with ourselves. That's how I see it for myself. If I want someone to love me for me, I want to make sure I honestly know who me is and the I'm happy with that me. And if a potential lover comes along, I will continue to hold that policy of them loving me for me and not get confused into supplementing their affection. That is to say, changing myself to fit someone else while lying to myself that they love "me". Personally, I'm less worried about finding that one person than I am being prepared when that person comes along. Preparation for me is trying to fulfill my potential and make myself a solid human being. So, when the One person comes along I won't bring a whole bunch of baggage or lean on them to feel whole. I imagine that One person will have put in the same effort cause I wouldn't settle for less. I see it as two independent developed human beings coming together and finding love. The most beautiful situation for me is to "need" someone when I truly don't need them. Hope that helps.
With room to live [& love],
Konstantine
2007-03-27 02:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by JoffreM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, we say something, but our behaviour does not match what we are saying. You could be wanting to have a boyfriend, but you may not have the body language of someone who wants a relationship. I hope I made sense. Let me know.
2007-04-04 02:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by MARIA W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lady..just wait for him..maybe the right man is not yet available now, just patiently wait 'coz i know God is preparing a wonderful man for you! God bless!
2007-04-04 01:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by Martinne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its been 4 years? um just give up and become lez woo hoo
2007-04-03 23:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by James R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋