I recently started talking to an old friend of mine after not talking for 2 years. We have been intimate once before, but on the DL. Now that he has been single for a few months, and me for 2 years, we are about to start a friends with benefits thing. I am not ready for a relationship, I was in one for 8 years with the first person I was ever with. Now I'm ready to explore. And he is also not ready for a relationship, since he is just coming out of one. Is this a good idea? or will it get out of control?
2007-03-26 19:29:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Every relationship should start from friendship..In this way you would have a chance of knowing the person better. Since you've been "intimate" with each other before. Its really quite possible for you two to have what you deserve. Time is a key. Don't rush things, if you do it will just turn out the way you dont want it to be. The fact that you found each other again for 2 years, it really is something. Things just dont happen, it happens for a reason. But of course, DONT EXPECT TOO MUCH. Expect nothing or expect the worse, it is a lot less painful.
Good luck.
2007-03-26 20:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by pride_vs_conscience 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some great relationships have started out as friendships. It all depends on the person.
Think of it this way. You get to know the person well without the pressure of a relationship. This means that friends are usually more truthful with each other. If you are friends, you already have some things in common, and isn't that something we look for in a relationship? Friends are comfortable with each others habits. Friends learn about each others bad habits more easily because of all the reasons I stated above. And you can go from friendship into a relationship more easily because you already know so much about each other.
2007-03-26 19:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will get out of control if YOU let it. Of course you can have a relationship of friendship, this gives time to have a more lasting non-superficial relationship. Gives you both time to heal and get to know each other over again. But stay in control!
2007-03-26 19:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tinribs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive never been through w/that...i was thinking about doing that w/my guy friend but i heard it usually turns out bad.
i wouldnt suggest it. for one thing, having no feelings but fooling around it makes it really awkward. you would have a good chance of ruining the friendship
but thats how most relationships start out...as friends and it has a better chance of lasting longer. so be friends but minus the benefits.
2007-03-26 19:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by Garbo's snowflake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ii-ii....friends with benefits...Yeah Hun, that never seems to work out fine...One or the other has stronger feelings for the other...Something that you "think" is simple...always turns out so dam* complicating....Trust me I've known plenty of friends who have been in "friends with benefits" relationships...It never ends pretty...So just take my word on it...Don't go through with it...It'll only began a issue that can be easily avoided now....if YOU choose not to do it.....
♥-Love-♥
2007-03-26 19:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to feel ready to start over again, but at least he's a friend and someone you feel comfortable with. Take your time and good luck.
2007-03-26 19:33:16 · answer #6 · answered by Vicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is really like that and it's a very convenient one to start.
Many relationships started that way. You already knows more about your friend and you knows how to deal with him already.
Go on unless you know already based on your friendship that he is not suitable for you.
2007-03-26 19:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by PJA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you normally start a relationship, as enemies? Or do you just start relationships with total strangers? If so, give me a call.
2007-03-26 19:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by Curious_Yank_back_in_South_Korea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on my relationship I'll say yes. We started of as friends now we are rock solid, no secrets no lies. I love her to death.
2007-03-26 19:33:06 · answer #9 · answered by MatthewO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares!
Have some fun.
What happens happens.
2007-03-26 19:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Bradley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋