i have had this experience and am 6 years into it right now. the relationship isn't perfect but, i find i love him more and more with each contact. i fully believe that my extent of love for this man will continue to grow and reach newer depths with each interaction. can this really be? i have never admired and really 'liked' anyone this much. it is like everything i thought i saw in him at that first sighting is being realized and proves continually satisfying, as though the revealing of each new detail of his life is only verification of what i already knew was. - so, so heartwarming and re-assuring! can it really last and be so easy? my other relationships were full of hurt, disappointment and strife.
2007-03-26 19:28:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the first time i saw him, i was sent aback, overwhelmed by the question of, 'where do you find a man like this?' and the question stayed in my mind for hours after parting. - w/ perhaps only 4 words exchanged during the meeting. i met him again a few years later and when he showed interest, i was like, there is no way i not going to be there for him! my agenda has never changed: to see him flash a smile as often as possible & to make him laugh everyday. it is all i want and all that i live for. i get so much strength from seeing it and so much enjoyment in causing it. though i never ever felt an obligation to entertain before, it has become all important and all consuming. just having fun and getting him to have some too - never hurting him or, disrepecting him or, having anything in his world not appear at its best. gives me so much pleasure. the first man i've ever known who i felt deserves that sort of devotion. and i knew it at first sight. no doubts. so wonderful.
2007-03-26 20:07:40 · update #1
i waited my whole life for this. took some unfortunate detours along the way but knew, always knew, i would settle for nothing less than what this man instills in me. HOORAY!
and now.....he's here
2007-03-26 20:17:30 · update #2
lucky you! its nice to find someone who continues to impress you and you admire for him his all. its possible...enjoy every day as if it was your last. just enjoy it.
2007-03-26 19:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe soulmates exist because I believe I'm with mine. My situation is similar to yours from the first moment I saw my boyfriend I felt something about him but we didn't actually get together until 3 yrs later and the relationships that I was in before was full of disappointment but I had to experience that so I would no how to have a meaningful relationship with the person I'm destined to be with which is my boyfriend but had I not experienced the hurt in the past relationships I would not know the things I really needed and wanted in a relationship. Every experience in life there's a lesson to be learned behind it.
2007-03-27 03:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by GoodGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in a relationship where i felt i had found the love of my life and were in the middle of organizing our life together which included marriage. he was my soulmate and i loved him dearly but within a week, he called it off and im still in shock over it being its just two weeks since that time. i never saw it coming at all.
there is no guarantees in life, i wish i could say, yes you have met the right one, but how do we know they are the right one. you just have to go with how you feel and pray really hard.
every relationship, even if your married needs working on every day. i did beleive in eternal love and soulmates before this breakup, now im sceptical that they exist.
2007-03-27 02:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES & YES. I know what you mean about it feeling kind of too good to be true... But think about it: some people win the lottery 100 million dollars. I'm sure that seems too good to be true to them, but it happens!! You hit the jackpot with love. (Finally! Right?) It is your karma in this lifetime, just as it is some people's karma to be rich, or famous, etc. Be thankful for this great blessing, and ENJOY!!! :)
2007-03-27 02:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be highly perceptive. Without knowing either of you, from what you are saying,it is possible that you two are will remain together. Good luck to you.
2007-03-27 02:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by LORD BALTIMORE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To your first two questions No,and No.
2007-03-27 02:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by boutgivup 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You sound like you felt just like me when you saw your soulmate! love at first sight is real. Or can be. Because true love is from God. I'm a Christian, I believe in God! And for that reason I believe that there is love at first sight. God sometimes maybe lets people (like me) see right away who He intended them to love and marry.
Love is different with everyone because we are all different! You can't describe true love for anyone! Everyone's experience of loving or being in love is totally unique. Because we area all unique! There are no hard and fast rules in love. Sometimes love at first sight is true. Sometimes it's not. Sometimes you really love someone you've dated for 10 years. Sometimes you ddon't.
I am so tired of the people that say smugly, "i believe in lust at first sight" because they don't know. I don't have problems with lust, and I have experienced that feeling of "wow, look, there he is, the guy I was created for". I just looked at his eyes from the side and I got that feeling. I wasn't looking at his body at all.
Please believe me- that even if it hasn't happened to you, or never will, it is POSSIBLE
Please do not listen to these other people. Although they mean well, I know personally that there can be real, true, lasting love (not LUST or INFATUATION! Boy am I sick of those dumb words! People just use them to sound grownup and wierd and fancy shmancy! {not to "dis" you other folks, but that's what it seems like to me :)} at first meeting- and yes, even at first sight.
As to what it feels like... everyone is totally different. If you think you are in love, and you love someone very much, more than any one else, than you ARE in love- for the time being. You may, who knows, some day, find someone else who you will be able to love even more. Not because you didn't love the first one- you did, as much as you could at the time. But each new person you fall in love with you seem to be able to love more.
Who can say whether we are all in love a dozen times in our life, or if we only "really" love one of those people, or if we never "truly" loved any of them?
Love is different for every person, at every different time. Sometimes it makes you sad, sometime it makes you happy, sometime insecure, sometimes confident. No one knows. But if you think you're in love, then tell yourself you are and go with your emotions, whether you become mournfully melancholy or exuberantly happy. There is nothing sweeter than feeling something deeply and telling yourself you're in love, whether it's for an hour or a lifetime- or eternity.
I fell in love from first sight with someone I have only met twice in the past two years I still am. For many reasons in a long story, we can't contact each other, nor do we "date" so there isn't a questions of all that "faithfulness" junk. But I knew at the first second that I was made for him and someday God will see we marry and live happily ever after. Sometime I will type up the whole story and post it on every "love at first sight" page and question and blog in the whole wide internet.
Again, I am not saying that love at first sight is the only right kind of love. Maybe you will hate the person you eventually fall in love with! Maybe it will take you years to gradually love them! Who knows? I am not saying that it is the only true kind of love. With some people, it may take a while to fall in love with their soulmate. But love at first sight is so very possible! Sometimes the good Lord is kind enough to show you right away. Like he showed me.
The moment I saw him standing there, I knew all about him. His character- how kind and sweet he was, how helpful and patient. And don't say I was judging a book by its cover. Later in the day I met up with him again and talked to him for five hours at that wedding reception. And my first impression- that split second thought of "this is who I was created for and am meant to marry" was strengthened. And he is in my every thought and dream. I don't give a passing thought or glance to anyone else- it's just out of the question. I’ve only seen him only 3 times over the years. It’s been so long. But I still love him! I do! It’s real!
I fell in love when I was only 13. But that’s how old Juliet was, and it was love at first sight and no one questions her! No one says “Oh, Juliet was so dumb, she didn’t REALLY love romeo, she just killed herself because she THOUGHT she did”. Why should people say that about me?
There is love at first sight.
Not lust.
Not infatuation.
Not a crush.
Not a passing attraction.
Real, true, lasting, beautiful, perfect love.
Believe!
2007-03-27 22:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by nemo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mail at aman_smartverma@yahoo.com
2007-03-27 03:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by aman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋