We have seen each other everyday since we met. He is such a great guy in every aspect. I don't want to rush things at all but I am falling in love with him. He has not said he loves me, but he gives me that look, the deep gazing look. I think he might feel the same way. He just ended a 5 year terrible marriage, and I don't want to rush him either. So I have been holding off on the feeling stuff. We are having a great time. My question is when is it ok to say I love you? Do I wait for him to say it first? I know this is silly, but its killing me, like waiting to open a package on Christmas morning.
2007-03-26 19:17:21 · 11 answers · asked by turkey killer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You wait for him to say it. If you say it first he may get scared and run off. I withdrew when my ex said it to me and I wasn't ready.
PS... how did you cross the line or initiate the convo on becoming exclusive with him.... i need help in this department...
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2007-03-26 19:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by coolchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm actually going through the same thing. We have also been together exclusively since December and i'm confused about saying 'i love you' to him.
I think the best thing you could do is wait until you know he feels the same way or at least sort of talk about your feelings before you say those 3 little words.
Be hesitant though, since he just ended a marriage he probably isn't going to say it too willingly. I'm sure he's going to wait until he absolutely means it. So be prepared just in case he doesn't say it back :)
Ashley
2007-03-26 19:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by ashwee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not silly, but my advice to you is wait. First of all, is the time you spent with this person enough time to really LOVE them or are you in love with the idea of love? Second, once you say it- he might feel like he has to say it so you don't feel alone in this even if he doesn't really mean it. What I saying is- don't rush it, even though you want to say it. I know- I did early and he got scared and ran.
2007-03-26 19:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
approximately your fiancee: you ought to break the engagement, and not using a question. overlook the "different guy" -- frankly, it rather is beside the point. in case you have not, examine your question; in case you have, re-examine it. seem at your description of your relationship including your fiancee. there have been roadsigns all alongside, in massive ambitious capital letters, that say "GET OUT." it particularly is often been a conflict -- that being the case, please do not have confidence which will exchange after marriage. Please, please do not have confidence that. It won't. His reaction to the being pregnant replaced into undesirable, particular, yet your thinking he might heat as much as the assumption does not make experience in gentle of your relationship, and, what particularly does not make experience, is the theory that "we would been jointly for 3 years, so why not get married now" while each and every indication replaced into that this replaced into not a relationship to paintings in the long-term. What it sounds like, is a relationship which you caught with, inspite of sparkling indicators which you ought to not, a minimum of not in case you had any hopes of marriage and stability. (To think of which you ought to get married and that issues might advance after the marriage...and to have a toddler besides...it rather is exceptional how many couples have a toddler (planned or not) thinking that having a toddler will sparkling up marital issues, and oh, enable me inform you, it does not paintings that way. Getting married, and having a toddler, won't advance issues.) i'm happy he at last found out "the blunders of his methods," even nevertheless i'm not confident he particularly did in any lasting, significant way. it rather is especially everyday abusive habit (emotional abuse, i'm not suggesting there replaced into any actual abuse occurring in any respect): he lashed out in a horrid way by way of telling you that not something must be worse than having a toddler, he withdrew from you once you needed help, and then, once you left and had the abortion, he grew to grow to be contrite. i don't have confidence the habit. Sorry. you ought to definitely not marry him. yet you additionally should not get right into a extreme relationship with this different individual. Spend a while not in a relationship, think of roughly what you like. Get counseling in case you're mushy with that. learn how to be self reliant previously you attempt committing your self to a relationship with somebody else.
2016-10-20 00:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things you need to realize. Most people get hurt when they 'fall' and especially so when 'falling in love'. Also there are two types of what humanity call 'love' - conditional or human love and unconditional or Divine Love. It is never inappropriate to share or express unconditional love.
Also remember in a relation there are two people involved. His marriage may have been 'hell' because of his actions or inactions. Why not talk to his ex-wife for the other side of the story?
2007-03-26 19:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i wouldnt tell him just yet i would just like wait and see if he tells you befor and if he doesnt then just pop it up one day and see what he says just make sure that you are alone when you talk about this because that imght be kind of wierd if you were with a lot of people but yeah i would wait andthen i would tell him because i nknow how you feel its really hard and i want to tell my guy to i just cant becuse he has talked about the words "i love you" befor and i dont want to tellhim because like im thinking he might think that he is gettin gin to deep
2007-03-26 19:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by tropical_sweety2587 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i wouldn't say it until he says it first. especially since he's just ended a long marriage, id be afraid to scare him off. So just let him be... he'll come along and let you know how he feels
2007-03-26 19:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by dreemz07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first make sure he loves u 2 then tell him well make sure he feels the same way!!!
2007-03-26 19:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after he says it first. i think it is sucha turn off when a woman blabbers it first. she appears clingy and desperate
2007-03-26 19:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say it !
betcha you'll get lucky after that!
just don't scream yees yeees ! too loud , you woke us up last time!
2007-03-26 19:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by Kewlchikka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋