This guy I've been talking to for three months now has a girlfriend. I'm about to be 19 and he's 17. I know that should probably be the end of my worries about him, but it seems like he's only interested in her for sexual things. He tells me she has a nice body and that he's going to take her virginity. She goes to his school. We've never had sex or done anything sexual and we won't be in the near future. He says that he likes me and that he wouldn't talk to me if he didn't and that I'm one of his best friends.
Apparently sex is important to him because he told me that he tried to get to me to do it with him, but I kept saying no so he had to move on.
Does that mean he never wants to be in a relationship with me? Why would he say something like that?
Also he told me that he doesn't talk about me to anyone really besides mentioning me to his mom once or twice. Is that a good or bad thing?
2007-03-26 19:11:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all he want is booty right now. dont get involved with him......at least not right now. your a friend to him right now and thats about it. he speaks of you to his mother because he could be viewing you as a potential longterm mate when he's ready to settle down. mom must like you plus he knows you value your body and he knows your no ordinary girl that just gives it up with a few whispers in the ear.just keep him as a friend for now.
2007-03-26 19:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, this guy is a jerk
Hun, if you're 19, move on and find a much better guy, you deserve someone who treats you right and respects you.
The fact that he is telling you he is interested in another girl is to make you jealous. Don't fall for it. Also, it's not your business whether he takes this girls virginity. I know it is wrong but you aren't involved. take a breather and step back, relax and find a mature man.
If you aren't going to give in, he doesn't want you. He's a player and you will get hurt. Stay away and keep your distance. He's a bad boy.
Move on, let go, don't talk with him and don't over analyze. Get Out! and Away!
2007-03-27 02:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by coolchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats a Bad thing b cuz if he likes you and wanted too b with you then he wouldnt be off going to get a girlfriend he would be there with you and he wouldnt want too have sex until you were ready thats all he wants cuz girl you r 19 years old you should have a real man who would wait til you were ready too do that you should move on your if he got a girl PG i doubt he would b there for her to support the baby well he is useing her too get intoo her pants.
2007-03-27 02:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the hell would you want a superficial jerk like this one? Geez. And you are 19. You are suppose to be maturing. Aren't you suppose to be in college or something? Now is the time you are suppose to be working on becoming independent and getting ready for a career and move out on your own.
Why tie down with a loser who just wants to use you for sex?
17 y.o. boys are nothing but a walking sack of hormones, anyway.
2007-03-27 02:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's using you and this girl. I suggest you warn this girl. It's only for his pleasure. If something goes wrong and his girlfriend gets pregnant she'll feel so depressed and have suicide thoughts and this guy will only move onto the next girl and might ruin her life just for his pleaure. He honestly sounds like a real creep. Sex isn't just about pleasure. It's about love as well and you were good to reject him for sex as there would probably have been no love and respect in it.
2007-03-27 02:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by Gumby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 17 and is acting like it. Guys minds are on pretty much one thing at that age and above and that is sex. As much sex as they can get. I think that you are flattered that this young man might be interested in you, but you know that if his girlfriend is just a sex object, then you will be too. Don't become another notch in his belt. Find someone who is older and really is into you, for you. I am sure that you will find him.
2007-03-27 02:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like he's a bad guy, just sounds like he's trying to get it from whoever will give it to him. Unfortunately it doesn't change much when you get older. A relationship may come in the future but chances are it will come when he realizes he actually has to work at getting what he wants.
2007-03-27 12:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by toyanlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey--this is a 17 year old and it shows---the silly stupid sex conversation should be a clue--he has better times with his hand AFTER he talks to you---so find a MAN...with self confidence, dignity, maturity, and something INTERESTING to talk about. Can't you see this??? have fun, take it easy and good luck
2007-03-27 02:21:45 · answer #8 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this boy is obviously young and thinks with his private area. i honestly do not think he really cares about you i think he just wants to get in your oant and tell all his little friends he had sex with a 19 year old. right now he will probably never be ablr to care the way you do about him if all he cares about with his current girlfriend is taking her virginitya dn nice her body is what do you think he actually thinks about you
2007-03-27 02:17:10 · answer #9 · answered by nik456 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is playing the field and your just one of the players he is trying to play the game with...beware, he will settle for anything , which means he probably won't protect himself from sexual diseases...so be careful how far you go with him.
2007-03-27 02:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋