and he already wants to have sex im 15 and he is 18 im like no cuz im not ready but i dont want to tell him and make him mad what should i do!
2007-03-26 18:38:32 · 20 answers · asked by biggy_mac_41 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
These are the kind of character tests that you will encounter all through your life. Will you be true to yourself and what you know is right for you or will you give in to pressure from another? The more of these tests you pass, the easier they become - which is important because the tests are more important the further on you go.
Be true to yourself. If he love love loves you then he will wait until you, his precious darling, are happy and comfortable with such an important step in a relationship. It is the ones that are interested in their own selves (their gratification, their pride, etc.) that will try to rush you or pressure you to do things their way.
Be strong. Do only that which is right and you will always be glad you did. If this one goes, the next one will be 10 times better. I have found it to be true time and again in my life.
Peace!
2007-03-26 18:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that you're not ready, or else things are going to start happening that you -- well, that you are not ready for.
He's not going to get mad if you tell him that he's moving too quickly for you, and if he does, dump him -- and FAST! You deserve a guy that can respect your boundaries.
Just don't have sex with this guy to make him happy - wait until you are completely and totally ready.
Sit him down, and just say "Things are moving a little too fast for me right now. I'd really like to get to know you a little better before we take the next step, okay?" Or something along those lines.
2007-03-26 18:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Delvala 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something. So what if he wants sex. If you don't want it, he needs to respect that. Besides, if you had sex with him, he'd be committing a federal crime. It's called statutory rape. He could go to prison for years for it. If he can't respect you, then break up with him. He isn't worth the trouble. Besides, why date an 18 year old. You're on one level of maturity while he's on another. He has far different desires than you. Tell him that you don't want sex. If he insists on having it, then dump him. If he gets mad, so what? You don't have to do something you don't want to do. One more thing, if he tries to hurt you, get away quickly! Also, be around a lot of people when you tell him how you feel. After all, there's safety in numbers. I'll pray for you.
2007-03-26 18:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by bond_fan_001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY--it is your body and your decision--this 18 year old acts like a 12 year old--better figure it out---he is trouble---only out for the silly little girls that will give it up. You better realize what he doesn't---sex at your age is NOT good---most kids are NOT informed---and wind up with babies or diseases that never go away---better study up on relationships and the sex act.
A real man is respectful, self confident, mature, and not demanding--that is only for starters--he should show dignity, integrity, courtesy, communications skills.
If he wants sex---ask him what kind of job he has to support the baby and you for 18 years. Better yet, dump him and find a nice guy or just hang with friends and have fun for another couple of years. School and family should be your top priorities, now. So be nice, have fun, smile and good luck
2007-03-26 18:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not worry about making him mad i mean you just recently met there is no reason why you should have sex with this man or even feel pressured to have sex with this man you need to let him know that you are not ready to take it to the next level with him yet and if he does get mad then you should know that he did not really like you he liked what he thought he could get from you. be careful and dont do anything you dont want to or your not ready to do.
2007-03-26 18:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by nik456 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not worth your time. He only wants to have sex with you. You're not ready to have that kind of relationship with him, nor should you. Stop wasting your time with someone who doesn't want to be with you and keep your eyes open for someone who'll really care about you. Someone who respects you enough to not ask you to have sex until you're ready. Meanwhile, enjoy being 15 and know that you're still discovering who you are as a person and not worry about the hassles of a relationship. Remember that you have your whole life ahead of you to find love and keep love.
2007-03-26 18:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Trancendence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say No- It's illegal, your not ready, and he's out of his mind to take the risk. If you get caught your parents can have him arrested and charged with child abuse if you like it or not. Want your boyfriend in jail and listed as a sex offender the rest of his life. You better tell him NO.
2007-03-26 18:44:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really likes you like you say he does he will respect that you aren't ready, and won't be mad about it. If he doesn't really have any respect for you then he will try to pressure you into doing it. It'll tell you what kind of a guy he really is...
2007-03-26 18:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan Andre 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he gets mad cause your not ready, hes a jerk, if hes for real, then hell be cool about it and wait.
But he IS 18 and you ARE 15, becareful cause he might only want you for sex.
2007-03-26 18:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that you should just tell him i mean if he gets mad then you shouldnt have a guy like that i am in the same situation but one year younger with each i mean just talk to him if he is like my guy then he would just wait for i while i mean he might bring it up sometimes but doesnt everyguy....good luck
2007-03-26 18:44:55 · answer #10 · answered by tropical_sweety2587 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋