Of her church. I've been previously married, and like I said, of different faith. What kind of fastball questions is this guy gonna zing at me regarding my faith and prior marriage? I don't have much patience or tolerance for religion anymore, but I told the fiance I'd behave myself. Just trying to get a feel for what I'm going to get asked.
2007-03-26 18:28:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No fastball questions.
There's a number of pertinent details to nail down.
Once that's done, the deacon will probably explain what if anything needs to be done prior to the wedding.
If you've been married before, this won't be much different.
Just relax, don't get upset, and smile a lot.
It will be fine.
If not, one very effective technique is to stand bolt upright, point your finger at the deacon, and yell, "AH-A-A-A-A ... the ANTICHRIST!"
Then quickly run away, leaving your fiance behind, to smooth things over.
2007-03-26 19:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
General questions... probably not "too" personal. If you or your previous spouse were married before that marriage. Some family background stuff on both, etc.
You will probably, if marrying a Catholic in the Catholic Church, will be asked to submit paperwork to the Diocese Tribunal to obtain a declaration of nullity. This can get a little involved and take quite some time.
If it is determined, Sacramentally, that your previous marriage is a valid marriage, they can still recognize that you are married to your ex and refuse to celebrate a marriage between you and your fiance.
J.R. below a few, has no idea on earth what he's talking about. Ignore his "rabbit-out-of-the-hat" answer. For one, I know for a fact, if the Church declares a prior marriage was never sacramentally valid and a Declaration of Nullity is issued, clearing the way to marry a new spouse, any children from the previous "invalid" marriage are not affected in any way. They are not considered illegitimate. And you are certainly not asked to renounce them or ignore them...good grief.
2007-03-27 01:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by Augustine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He'll ask specific questions about your prior marriage - mostly just to determine whether or not the marriage was Sacramental in the eyes of the Catholic Church - and that will determine whether or not an annulment will be necessary.
Be yourself. Answer honestly.
Don't fret or worry! Besides - Deacons have no power to make decisions in the Church. He's just doing it because the Priest is busy.
2007-03-27 01:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be yourself, and honest about how you feel. If he starts zinging fastball questions at your religion, respond in kind. After all, he's the expert so you should be the one who gets to ask the questions. Most religious figures try to be kind and friendly (you can't win someone over to your side by offending them), so I wouldn't expect much of a battle. Besides, by being honest and asking open questions about each other's faiths you both might learn something. Good luck.
Oh....and GO BUCKEYES!!
2007-03-27 01:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The deacon of what church ... his or yours ? I would imagine ... if your are getting married in the catholic church .... it will be important for your fiance to continue his faith. The Priest may want some assurance .... and in writing that you will raise your kids as Catholics .... having them baptized etc.
He may inform you of some of the requirements of the Diocese before performing your ceremony ... such as .... you have been dating for at least a year ...
He may want to try to convert you to catholicism or at least inform you that you have to take some classes. Most of these things are to guarantee that your fiance continues in good standing ... continues his attendance and receives the sacraments ....
Of course , I may be wrong about the whole thing and he is merely gonna ask for a donation......
2007-03-27 01:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by burlingtony 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stand up for yourself. Do not be a hypocrite. If you are on the edge of atheism, tell your fiancee. She will either cope with it or not. If she is a girl worth having as a life partner, she will accept it.
I am an athiest married to a born-again christian. It does not affect our life. No religion in the house solves ALL the potential problems.
Deacon? Evidently deluded so tell him the truth about reality. Do not lie.
2007-03-27 01:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you look up the truth about Catholicism and pray for the Lord to reveal the truth to her. But it doesn't exactly sound like you are someone who is living for God. Your last concern be about your relationship with her, but your relationship with Jesus. What do you believe? You will be headed down that road of disappointment and divorce again if you don't get your relationship with God right first. (If you really love her and think that she is the one that God has chosen for you- buy these five books:
1-Holy Bible ( Irecommend New International Version if you haven't read the Bible in a while it is very eay to understand and doesn't paraphrase)
2-The Five Love Languages(can't remember the author, but awesome book)
3-The Power of a Praying Husband by Storie Omartian
4- The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian
5- The Power of a Praying Parent by Stormie Omartian
Don't be foolish and wait until you have already gotten married. Read these and do what they say. When you give your fiance' her book, tell her you need her to pray for you so that you can be the husband and father God wants you to be and that she needs. ( And be truthful in this- don't fake it a woman always knows)Stop having premarital sex if you are, confess to God (not some priest) your sins and ask him to forgive you and start praying for your marriage before you do the I Dos. These books are not quick fixes but guides to be used continually to help you on your journey
Be Blessed. Jesus loves you
***don't forget to look up the truth about Catholicism and compare it to your new Bible and be patient on the date this is the rest of your lives we are talking about. You do not want to hate that date.
2007-03-27 01:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, he will *most likely* want you to convert to Catholicism in order to marry you. He will also ask you to renounce your former marriage (that's what they wanted my mother to do when she remarried) Also, if you had kids from the previous marriage they will likely ask you to renounce them as from a sinful union. He may ask various questions regarding what you believe, but probably nothing too difficult.
2007-03-27 01:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by J.R. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Oh,it is the biggest mixup that you have ever seen,me father he was Orange and me mother she was Green".....Teach your kids this song by The Irish Rovers.
2007-03-27 02:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by K H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
convert into catholic religion
2007-03-27 01:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by dictator_cool 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋