okay i posted this earlier, deleted it because i didnt have much time to write it out...but here we go...my fiance has got a great job and if we get married before i enroll in school for my last session of school it will save us 400 dollars off my tuition. well we are gonna have a small court house wedding in april. then in august instead we are gonna have a ceremony at my church and have all out friends and family that are coming come to that ceremony...people think its crazy but our family thinks its a great idea... what are some ideas to help people believe this is not such a crazy idea?
2007-03-26 18:03:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
thanx so much for the comments everyone!
2007-03-26 18:17:30 · update #1
You sound like very sensible kids. I don't believe you owe anyone an explanation. Your families agree with you, which is nice. The heck with everybody else.
One of my daughters did this years ago. Her fiancee was going to be shipped over seas. They wanted to get married so that if there were any problems she could act for him. If they weren't married, that person would be his mother. They got married in a court house near the base. When he got back from his overseas tour they had a nice ceremony for family and friends to attend.
Just tell people that you decided to have a civil marriage for legal reasons and will have a ceremony to share with friends later. There's no reason to go into detail about the tuition. It's really not their business and anyone who asks about the legal reason is rude. Good luck!
2007-03-26 18:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Annie D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok well if you are having a courthouse wedding you are already legally married, so the church service would be a blessing rather than another wedding. Lots of people do that, you aren't the first ones to do that.
2007-03-26 20:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happens all the time. Frequently to get green cards, sometimes to protect the birth date of an early child, sometimes for economic reasons (such as taxes, or what you have indicated). Besides, what do you really care about what others think? Go for it. If you have the support of your family, they're all that really count.
2007-03-26 18:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have one wedding ceremony.
2007-03-27 02:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell them you got married already! Keep it a secret between your lover and yourself and your parents and the financial records. This way, you won't have to deal with people and you'll probably get more gifts! :)
2007-03-26 18:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you have your parents permission go for it :)
2007-03-26 18:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋