been going with the same guy for 3 years.. and our relationship is falling apart and i moved out due to the fact that i wasn't being appreciated and then he call's me and tell's me what kind of mind games.. what exactly does this mean?
2007-03-26 17:56:03 · 13 answers · asked by tina c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i meant to say that he told me what kind of mind games am i playing.
2007-03-26 18:01:57 · update #1
sounds like you are on the right track by leaving, just keep going cause sounds like the bf is not worth hanging onto any longer. I feel the same way about my soon to be ex gf. I am tired of being there for her for everything and getting nothing in return. I am not appreciated neither and that really stinks. I allways thought that relationships are a 2 way street , not one way , if you know what I mean.
2007-03-26 18:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you felt underappreciated was a sign that you two were in some kind of a rut. Maybe you two needed to take a break from each other for awhile so that you both can figure out if it's worth the effort to keep going with each other. By him accusing you of playing "mind games" he may feel like you are trying to manipualte or control him in some way, when all you probably wanted from him was some form of validation or for him to start treating you in such a manor where you will feel appreciated. You're certainly justfied for wanting this from him just as there are certain things that he too needs from you as well. Sure, you are a grown woman just as he is a grown man. You're both grown adults who have spent the last three years together so, things can get stale after awhile where couples, such as yourselves, can tend to take each other for granted. He still seems to care about you though, and what is going on. Doesn't seem like he wants to give up on the last three years. After all he did call you; albeit a rather clumsy attempt to try to find out what is going wrong with you, with him, with each other. What all this means is for you two to have a serious talk and see if you two can still want to be with each other. You two should have this talk without the accusing, or finger pointing or any arguing; like the two mature "grown" people that you both are. This may just be a bump in the road where you both need to learn how to better communicate with each other and for you both to make your wants and desires known to each other. Either try and smooth out this impasse and achieve a new understanding or, at least, part on amiable terms and leave each other with no ill will between you both.
2007-03-26 19:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he desires to play mind games, you are wise to move out and keep out and stay away. If all he can do is play mind games then you are wiser to stay away and quit while the quitting is good. And find someone who is grown up and knows how to act like he appreciates you and not this kind of stuff. You will only get hurt. So get away while the getting is good and find someone else. You are a grown woman and you need a grown man. Not him
2007-03-26 18:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by oldestme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind games huh? It is apparent that he is placing the blame on you by calling your feelings-- mind games. Tell him comments like that are the very reason you left. tell him when he is ready to address the real issues and start acknowledging the fact that your feelings are not mind games, then perhaps you might be able to get somewhere. You are free, take your ticket and get on another train, taking your love for granted is not on the schedule. All aboard!
2007-03-26 18:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by LisaLou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means that he does not completely understand why u left him. So he is pining his confusion on u playing mind games with him: u deliberately setting out to confuse him or send mixed signals.
So if u still care about him u can tell him that he didn't appreciate u enough, if u just want to move on....walk away &dont look back!
2007-03-26 18:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think maybe you guys need to either seperate, or take a break from eachother. maybe you moving out is a good thing, you both will have your own space and be able to figure out what you want from the relationship...hope things work out for the best :)
2007-03-26 18:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Cassie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not invest more than 2 - 3 yrs. in a relationship without marriage...Do not have kids out of wedlock..
Get a good Pre-Nup..
Do not marry a guy who has personality / behavior problems
as they will only get worse after marriage..
Sounds like you need to break up and move on...
2007-03-26 18:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you may be grown..but obviously too immature to have communication in your relationship!
2007-03-26 18:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by my_thoughts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like u said, he doesn't appreciate you no more. Yeah exactly.
2007-03-26 17:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by Scpwnz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really sound like he looking to get back with you. so
talk to him and let him know how you really feel. he may
has changed.
2007-03-26 18:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋