My boyfriend works with a couple of my good friends they're both very attractive, but I'm particularly worried about one of them, she claims she has the "perfect" marriage but we see differently, she drinks so much to the point where she tried to screw one of my guy friends who of course is married, she claims not to remember and that it was nothing. I trust my boyfriend but it bothers me everytime I see them talking, I've confronted her as a friend, but I don't think she realized how much she bothers me, now they're about to deploy together for six months, I'm miserably jealous and I don't know what to do, am I being paranoid? Should I just lay the cards on the table and tell her how I feel? How can I tell if he likes her too?
2007-03-26 17:34:29 · 19 answers · asked by funiris4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i see her as a bad influence and i would stay away from her if possible.
I wouldn't tell her how you feel. From what you've told me you two don't have the level of intimacy which means that you can tell her that you think she's a threat to your relationship and she won't go out and jepordise that for kicks.
Let you boyfriend know exactly how you're feeling - hopefully this will put him on his guard a bit more.
2007-03-26 17:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by Bexsi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like a good time to consider the issue of "is this really your friend"? Your friends shouldn't make you feel like this(weather they realize it or not)! Don't say anything more about the matter to her cause some chicks feel more inclined to get your B-friends attention if they know that it bothers you!!! Just keep your eyes peeled for suspicious activity (although most cheaters are pretty slick about being on the down low) Them talking to each other in front of you "might" be a good sign though because usually people that are up to no good ten to be more sneaky!!
Sorry your feeling so bad!
Good luck
2007-03-26 17:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by ☆♥•´`•.¸ ;-) •´`•.¸ ♥☆ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are going to deploy together for six months I wouldn't trust her a bit. I would break up with your boyfriend, because trust is the most important. You should confront him and tell him how you feel. If you feel that untrustworthy to him then dump him. Or higher a private investigater.
2007-03-26 17:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being paranoid! the married girls are the ones you have to watch out for, especially ones who drink. As for your boyfriend, guys, i am sorry for this comment, but when it comes to females, guys are weak. The old saying is sometimes we think the "grass is greener on the other side of the fence" so don't trust her, and it wouldn't do any good to talk to her about it, you have to talk to him!
2007-03-26 17:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first, this could just be your imagination but if you are sure that it isn't here is what you do. get them all together and discuss it. if you catch them flirting or worse. dump him right away and tell her husband. but if you think you are beeing paranoid then you might not be. but change perspectives and look at how you are acting. if you see yourself being paranoid then try and take it off your mind. if it turns out they are having an affair, take some time off and be nice to youself.
2007-03-26 17:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by Cheer<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, you don't trust yourself, you are the jealous one. Jealousy is as cruel as the grave. What do you have to be jealous for. God loves you as you are. And it's probably something stupid you are jealous about. I have people that are jealous of me and I try hard not to get into jealousy. I hate it when I pick up in my spirit that someone is jealous. Cut it out. NOW
2007-03-26 17:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's with you...not her. Don't borrow trouble by assuming there is anything going on between them. If at some point you have proof, then you can confront them...but at this time, it's your own imagination and jealousy that is your worst enemy
2007-03-26 17:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should either trust your boyfriend or you don't.
It doesn't matter what she does.....this is on him.
Also a friend wouldn't do anything with your boyfriend and if she does that says something about how she feels about you.
2007-03-26 17:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on ur thought,if u can trust ur bf u can leave her behind and dont think too much.But i hope u trusted ur bf and i dun think she is ur friend anymore if she keep flirting other bf
2007-03-26 17:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by falieys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not trust her. i would give her the freezer.
well... unless this is your long time best friends, then i would lay the cards down and just have it out over coffee or something like that.
good luck!
2007-03-26 17:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by ty808 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋