I am an Indian National working in singapore for the past 13 years as civil engineer. I left india just to settle family loans and get sisters to get married and lessen all my parents burdens. At this moment I have got eneough but I loss my true love from parents & sisters. They Just dumped me and my own family just because I stop sending them money ( As I have fullfill all their neccessity including employ house maid to look after them) for their luxuary life. I have given up all my indian property as well newly built 2-storey house to my parents as they only love money. Now i feel like an orphan even though i have eneough to support my own family. I just try to forget all and always end up with alchocol by keep thinking of those things. What I would like to hear from you all is that , How could the parents just look at the money and do not feel the pain of making money in foreign country and just ignore son who really bring them all wealth?
2007-03-26 17:30:15 · 15 answers · asked by mshdsh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is not their feelings, but your expectations in return for what you did, is the problem. If you feel you have done all that you should do for your parents, then feel happy about that and enjoy life with your family. By family, I hope you are referring to your wife and children. What you are expecting from your parents give the same to your children, make them happy and you would be happy too.
To put it in short, Get a Life!!!
2007-03-26 17:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by 2_b_or_not_2_b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are certain parents who have struggled a lot to settle themselves due to lack of money.They made u independent so that u can earn money and take care of themselves.But now what they are doing with u is totally wrong.Actually they have the same expectations from u as before that u will give them money always.But as u stop sending money,they forgot everything that u did and dumped u.But u just discuss this with them and tell them frankly about ur expectations of love from them.Then u just analyze their answers.If they are really good persons and have a heart with tiny amount of emotions,then they surely understand u now and u can lead a happy family thereafter.Do not take alcohol please.This is not at all the solution to ur problems.Just go ahead in life if everything goes wrong.Because u have done great things to ur parents.As they are neglecting u,its their fault not urs.So be happy thinking that u r 100% right and have done everything good in ur life.So surely good days will come for u.Please do not take alcohol at all.All the best.
2007-03-27 01:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Susri M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if they love only money u can not forget them as u r because of them . While sending money keep a good balence between your family needs & your parents' one which u did not do perhaps. Start doing now. While helping someone one should not expect goodwill or any good response from anyone. Whole world is like that which u cannot change. Keep doing your duty as a son & head of your family & keep quiet. No need to be alcoholic, please. Do not terminate any relationship with anybody even if one is dead selfish. U don't know when time changes fast. Do not think about the past & always look for future only. That's what keeps one active, dynamic & useful to your family & good people u like. Forget about others who have no time to think about your painstaking efforts. Pray God to put u in peaceful tension free life.
2007-03-27 00:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whole world is like that. Whenever one does something 4 someone in ur case ur parents & sisters u will only have to do it. The prob. is that u did not draw a line that only certain amt.should be sent. Then they totally they depended on u and when un stoped they felt bad. U can make them understand that u have ur family to support as well as ur parents also. I think they will understand and will come back 2 u. Dont take alchol as itr will ruin ur present & future. I hope u can understad what i mean to say.
2007-03-27 09:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by peacock 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't know your culture or your country, but I can assure you that it is no different in America. Unfortunately, money means power and happiness, even though it is short lived. Have you told your parents how you feel? If you have and nothing has changed, you are going to have to make changes on your own. If you haven't, DO IT and see what will come of it. There is a song that comes to mind, more money more problems. One more thing, for you and your family, DON'T DRINK, IT WILL ONLY MAKE YOU WORSE.
2007-03-28 21:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what...i think my sister is kinda facing almost the same thing as you are. she started working with oil n gas company about half a year ago and my dad is like taking advantage of her money. it's not that he doesn't work...he only uses his money for himself (for his bikes mostly). he even expects my sister to pay for the our new house instalments, electric and water bills when it is his responsability. now, my sister has no money for herself. all her money goes to the family. it's not that it's completely wrong because she do it to help lessen my dad's burden. but my dad need to show some appreciation...so does your family.
2007-03-27 01:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by Big Bike Biker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur situation is same as my fiance as well. he went to cyprus to earn money . every month he sent half of his pay to his family and they don't even want him come back to india. his younger brother don't work at all. all of them are totally depend on him.
they buy expensive suit and expensive stuff whereas my fiance don't spend any money on himself. he has built two storey house as well in punjab but they are not happy by calling him india. i request not to drink u can start ur new life with nuclear family get marry and start new life.
thats what me and my fiance going to do.
2007-03-30 06:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by stranger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've made them dependent on you. Your just going to have to limit your funds for them and start looking out for yourself more. But the more you keep supporting them the more they will expect it from you. And even if they don't show it, I'll bet they still love you. You have a lot to think about. Peace.
2007-03-27 00:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by RickinAlaska 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i am really sorry for u.but now it is high time u concentrate on your family...ur wife and kids.that u have done all that they require ,u have fulfilled your duty.it is their duty to reciprocate in the form of love.
they have failed on t heir part,u have won !coz all u want back from them is love and not all what u gave them.hats off
2007-03-30 02:18:37 · answer #9 · answered by kasa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents want to show WEALTH of their son to world....Don't stop sending money,,.. u send enough money which will meet basic necessities of ur parents.........but don't expect in return from parents
2007-03-30 03:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by Noorul Ameen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋