2007-03-26 17:22:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i wanted to wait until we got married and i think i made the wrong decision.
just seeing someone at each others houses or parent's houses is one thing... common living space is a totally different experience.
My husband and I got off to a really bad start when we first lived together. it was so bad i didn't think we were going to ever work it out.
mostly we fought over stupid things, but many little things created one huge amount of stress and tension.
now looking back i wished we lived together first... i have no doubt in my mind that we would still be together today, but every situation is different.
I respect your belief because i once felt the same way, but there is no wrong or right answer, it's various shades of gray.
Fallow your instincts. Not some lame advice from people such as myself that do not know the entire situation.
Best of luck, congrats on the engagement!
2007-03-26 18:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by love for art 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is an old fashioned view point that if you're already living together there's nothing to make him propose.
Though in saying that there are always several factors to consider. Religion & economics can both impact on the decision making process.
My best guess is that he wants to make sure that he has a safe investment before he fully commits to marraige.
Talk to him - discuss both posibilities and perhaps put a time frame on it. If marriage is that important to you that he should understand that and accomodate that. There's probably more going around in his head that you (or i) really know
2007-03-27 00:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by Bexsi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with a person and dating a person are so completely different. I think you should at least spend a significant percentage of your time at the same residence as your fiance even if you still have your own place to go to at the end of the day. That way there aren't any surprises.
2007-03-27 00:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by kirby_669 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on....
Your fiancee is obviously not committed to getting married or why would he be hesitating?
Girl, I think I'd have to know a little more about your relationship and especially more about you...
there's more here than meets the eye.
2007-03-27 00:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by GeneL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married first. Then you're starting a new life with a new home. It makes it all the more special.
Just say something like that and say it with a moany tone. . . that makes him think it's really important to you. That'll get him every time.
2007-03-27 00:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smart girl! Don't put the horse behind the cart. Get married, commit yourselves to one another, and then have your children.
We test drive our new potential vehicles, not our spouses, so live separately until the vows are pronounced. Keep your integrity because once it's gone it's tough to rebuild.
2007-03-27 00:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by Guitarpicker 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get married first it makes a big difference and is more likely to last if u do
2007-03-27 00:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is simple. Let him know that you'll agree to living together as long as you can be celibate until the wedding.
2007-03-27 00:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you find alot of things out by living together. good and bad but stuff you should know beforehand, they could be dealbreakers.
2007-03-27 04:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anne W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your grounds, girl!
2007-03-27 00:32:18 · answer #10 · answered by smarties 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋