Like well...yesterday, my mom asked how my counsling was going, and i told her it was going good. Then she asked me about certain things. But i wouldn't tell her anything, because its none of her buisness. I then told her that we were working on my anger problem...and we figuared out a part of it. And it was because of her. She got so mad. I told her why, and she got even more angry at me. we started to yell at one another, then i got up and left in the middle of it...
anyways, why do people who ask for the truth, end up getting mad about it?
2007-03-26 17:21:15 · 12 answers · asked by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
*well for myself....the anger is a huge ordeal...expecially with with my depression..thats why she wanted to know*
2007-03-26 17:39:47 · update #1
People who ask for the truth get mad because one, usually the truth hurts. Or second the truth is probably far different from what they were expecting or form what was pre-conceived.
2007-03-26 21:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by dr.dre 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People as to know the truth, but rarely really want to know, especially if it is going to put them in a bad light. I have seen this time and time again. It is one of the things I also am working on in therapy. My mother died a number of years ago and I haven't been able to shed a tear for her, we did not have a good relationship, and some of it is now venting into my marriage and I know I have to work it all out. A friend asked me to think of three good things about my mother. This was weeks ago and with the help of her best friend we still haven't come up with those three things. Some mothers just push those buttons, they just want to know all that is going on in your life and no matter what you say it is going to turn bad. To be honest the less said to them the better the relationship. Here I am at 57 and still have the problems that you have, and I have to guess you are much much younger, I'm probably closer to your mother's age. But a daughter never stops being a daughter. All I can say is deal with your therapist on the rage issue, use an SSRI drug if you need they are fantastic when it comes to controlling rage, and keep away from topics that will only bring up problems.
2007-03-26 18:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by lochmessy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can tell you right off there your mom got mad because you put the blame on her for your own anger. didn't your counselor tell you NOT to talk about that with anyone? you better make sure you share with your counselor what happened there with your mom. secondly , sometimes folks don't want to hear what is really going on with you at all. they are just being polite in asking. one way you can answer that question would be to thank them for asking and turn it around to them. there is nothing folks like more than talking about themselves. ask them how THEY are doing and you wont have to go into details of yourself as only you and your counselor should be discussing those problems . keep them in the counselors office because most can't handle your truth. heck they can't even (many of them I'll say ) .. they cant handle their own truth !! good luck ..
2007-03-26 17:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by cherylanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been my experience that most people do not want the full unadulterated truth. Because the truth hurts. Deep down people konw the truth, but they lack the wits, coping skills or cognative ability to deal with it.
I have found people are hypersensitive regarding the truth.
I like to tell them the truth...it is good to see the reaction.
2007-03-26 17:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mustn't might desire to lie because of fact then it presumes that girls do no longer deserve the actual fact. it may injury her to take heed to which you seek for specific issues in a woman yet once you lied to her she'd be extra injury while she shows out which you do no longer certainly seek for those untrue features. To be straightforward this female is stupid and desires to verify that no longer all adult adult males are stupid and adult adult males % extremely some issues.
2016-10-20 12:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-26 22:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by scorpe_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They want to be lied to and believe it is the truth, because it makes them feel better about themselves.
2007-03-26 17:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by BDOLE 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
because they know they're going to get mad, and they just need you to start that fire which they know is going to get out of control scince ofcourse they had a bad day and want to be mad at someone......that's why!
2007-03-26 17:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are not always asking for the truth...they just want you to make them feel good...tell them that everything is fine and it is not their fault..
2007-03-26 17:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by BRE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they dont take a deep breathe and prepare for the truth they asked for it, they should prepare for it
2007-03-26 17:29:12 · answer #10 · answered by ceesteris 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋