What would you rather have...
A guy who shows confidence by walking up to you and saying hello, and ask you how your doing today.. Crack a couple of jokes... get you to smile, and in the end.. maybe get your number..
Or..
A guy that is really shy, keeps looking at you and telling his friends that he thinks your cute... Doesnt have any courage to ask you out... and maybe in the end he'll maybe miss out on the chance to go out with you.
2007-03-26 17:12:26 · 28 answers · asked by -Dr. D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
SO.. THERE YOU GO GUYS... NOW THE QUESTION IS HOW DO YOU WORK ON BEING MORE CONFIDENT??
2007-03-26 17:25:44 · update #1
Overall, the first guy is going to get more dates because he has the confidence to actually ask girls out. Besides that, biologically speaking, more women will be attracted to the first guy because he is exhibiting "alpha male" qualities. An "alpha male" is a male who exhibits qualities that gives him more social status over other males. When a girl sees this quality in a guy, an attraction mode inside her clicks and she finds something about him that interests her. This is because this type of male will pass on qualities to his offspring that will give them a better chance of surviving. Humans still have primitive instincts like that that kick in. This "alpha male" type of man can also be seen as the "bad boy" type of man.
On the flip side, the second guy will typically be seen as a "nice guy", or in a woman's mind, as being "too nice" or "spineless". He won't exhibit the types of qualities that a woman naturally finds attractive in a male. This type of guy will typically put a woman on a pedestal, and suck up to her in an effort to get her approval. Thing is, just by doing this excludes him from her ever being attracted to him, because psychologically speaking, he is giving her power over him, and showing her that he is of "lower status" than her, socially speaking. And women are naturally attracted to "higher status" males (which is why they go ga ga over popular guys, jocks, rock stars, movie stars, guys with outgoing personalities or "bad boy" types).
A girl is as much attracted to a way a guy makes her feel as a guy is attracted to her looks. If a guy can make a girl feel great and have fun when she is around him, she will feel more attraction to him than she will toward the shy quiet type. Lets face it, how much fun is she going to have with some guy too shy to make conversation with her and make her laugh and stuff?
2007-03-26 17:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the first guy will be noticed and I would rather have this one instead of the second guy. Girls like confident guys who take the initiative to ask the girls out. And i love people that make me smile!
Shy guys are cool, but its hard to tell if they like you or not. I really like shy guys because they are the nice guys and they have more in common with me. But, girls are usually the ones who are always waiting for the guys to make a move on the girls. So these guys will never get any attention from the girls unless they start talking to them.
2007-03-27 00:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the first guy may be a little too confident. I would pick the second guy, just because if the first guy isn't too shy to come up to you when he doesnt even know you, how many other girls has he or is he going to go up to in the future. I'd rather have a quiet guy than a loud obnoxious one.
2007-03-27 00:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a little bit of both actually.
I can't really get the guy if he doesn't talk to me and I'm not sure if he's looking at me or something (or someone) else. Not to mention, I doubt I could hear him telling his friends he thinks I'm cute. So... too shy is a bad thing.
BUT too pushy is a bad thing too. Saying hello, starting up a few conversations and what not is fine. If there is a spark, then so be it. If the guy is just way too pusy and seems somewhat self-absorbed, that's not cool.
So a kind, shy guy who WILL approach me and get me to laugh is the best bet.
2007-03-27 00:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by can_you_accept_who_i_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess Mr Confidence, so long as he wasn't really Mr Player dressed in nice guy clothes! Mr Shy will be waiting until hell freezes over and still end up missing out!
2007-03-27 00:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, the first guy is going to succeed.
Most women are incredibly turned on by a confident man. Not braggy and self absorbed, but just a man who knows his strengths and can have a decent conversation.
2007-03-27 00:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prefer a confident guy because I'm pretty shy too so unless the guy comes up to me, I would never ever go up to him (sad I know) even if I suspect he's too shy to approach me.
2007-03-27 00:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first guy is too bold and would more than likely be all about attention. Mabey not but this is just me talking. The second guy has always been my pick because he is devoted when he finally gets up the courage.
2007-03-27 00:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by ocampotx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... I dont want either of those guys. I want a guy that comes up to me with a flower and tells me that he thinks I am beautiful. One who is sincere with his words and shows some confidence but not machoism. So niether or a little of both I guess you would say!
2007-03-27 00:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea i am the second option. And treust me it doesnt work in getting the girl like u said they miss out. I would go for being the first type of gut. Good luck.
2007-03-27 00:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by LJD4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋