me and my ex broke up about 5 months ago and i still love him we still talk and everyhting but i cant help but love him and i dont think he feels the same way and it kinda hurts becuz i he was my frist for alot of things and now im miserable becuz i dont think well ever get back together. but he tells me he misses me and he kinda wants to get back together but theres so much against us i dont think its going to work out.
2007-03-26 17:09:07 · 8 answers · asked by phxgurl162006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the reason we broke up is becuz he moved away and i couldnt handle the long distance relationship i was always unhappy
2007-03-26 17:26:21 · update #1
the hardest thing in life is to move on from those we thought would be in our lives forever. them no longer being there for us and it really hurts when u go on wit them in your life as just friends, not that it is a bad thing i believe that it should be like that i mean damn you r relationship had meanin! but you need to take time out wit him and you need to tell him this don't just give him the cold shoulder.that wouldn't be right their r already enough people who do that....but you need the space to react to the reality of this all him still there talkin to u puts your heart in confusion, and it takes longer to heal if u don't let it go.
and you say he misses you this may be true but careful especially if you say that there r things that happen between yall that you don't think will work out...before you two should even get back together then you need to work on these problems together and fix them frist..........
and if he cheated on you don't you dare take him back then it will be your fault ..............
talk to people close to you and love you listen to what they say to you and then add up all that was said and start from there...........
i wish you luick tho because the pain you feel i still feel from the love of my life but i am slowly learnin to let go and let others in!!!!
2007-03-26 17:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey, you've pretty much answered your own question. You need to ask yourself why you broke up in the first place. Is it really worth getting back together, just so you can go through that same thing over and over again? Trust me, everything happens for a reason and there are plenty of guys out there that would absolutely love you. Take time out and enjoy your life. Hang out with friends and family. Praying also helps. I'm not very relgious but I've found that it helps if you pray about it. Take care
2007-03-27 00:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by sweetnsouthern 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say this to you honey, but you can't get over him because you don't want to. Either it seems too hard to move on, you are enjoying the nostaligia or the drama, or you are just not interested in new men and so you allow your thoughts to linger on the old - and that is ok. In time you will realize that the new is always greater than the old and that as wonderful as the old one seemed the new one will be that much more wonderful.
It doesn't pay to dwell on the nostalgia of the "first" for too long. All in all, we rarely get things right the first time and when we look back we marvel at how clumsy our first attempts were. But each important relationship takes time to get over. Be patient with yourself.
Peace!
2007-03-27 00:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what lead to the break up in the first place. If he doesn't show you that he loves you and your unsure then you deserve to be with someone who will return that love you have in the same way. He kinda wants to get back, I hope that was not his exact words in my mind if this is how he is approaching it then you are probably better off finding someone who will love you for you. Follow your heart and give it sometime, you may meet someone who willl love you back the way you need to be.
-NmD!
2007-03-27 00:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay connected because it's what you know & it's comfortable.
You have a future to live and staying connected to a relationship that doesn't work keeps you stuck in the past.
It'll hurt now but everyday it will hurt less and less.
2007-03-27 00:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are difficult at times... Don't accept Kinda wants to get back with you.... Either he's on the ship or he isn't. Don't let him control your self worth- does he deserve you?
2007-03-27 00:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by Regina L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you love him it is going to take time to get over him.
it's just like a wound, it needs time to heal. some times meeting new people can be a big help unless you are waiting around for something to happen.
2007-03-27 00:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can really be hard at times. it will only take time though. in time it will feel better. just hang in there i know you can do it i believe in you =D
2007-03-27 00:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by Vince F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋