i have been divorced now for a few years and we have a 7 year old child together. he told me he was getting married and i am happy for him.i have known his girlfriend for awhile and we are friends but not close friends. she wants me to be a brides maid. now i have no feelings for my ex after all i am remarried and i wish them both luck but should i tell her yes that i will be in the wedding. she doesnt have many friends or family coming. i mean what will folks think. what if others think it doesnt look right. my daughter will also be in the wedding as a flower girl any advice will be welcomed
2007-03-26 17:05:49 · 13 answers · asked by debbie o 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think that it's wonderful that you and your ex have such a good relationship, especially for your daughter. I say, if you feel comfortable being in the wedding, then it shouldn't matter what any attending guests might think on the matter. Clearly, the bride has no qualms, or she would not have asked you to participate.
2007-03-26 17:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be important for you to support your ex husband especially in front of your daughter. You need for her to know that life goes on and that even though there is no paper saying your married to this guy doesn't mean you can't be supportive and well wishing. Try to think of it as being their for your daughter and showing her what type of woman you want her to be than being their for the bride or the groom. You are very very very lucky that you can be in the same room with your ex. Not everyone is as luck and you need to represent that for your daughter. I say do it
2007-03-26 18:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 00:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't comfortable, then don't do it. Sounds to me like that's the case.
You could be honest and simply tell her that you would feel uncomfortable and self concious.
Also, maybe explain that you don't want to do anything that might overshadow her happy day with gossip or rumor, so you'd be more comfortable as a guest.
Side note: I do think that attending and being supportive sets a good example for your daughter, It shows her that even if her dad and you are no longer 'family', that you value your daughter's family.
:)
2007-03-26 17:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by lola_falula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is kind of odd for you to be a brides maid but to each as own. If you are comfortable with it and your daughter is going to be in it anyway so go for it. How does you new husband feel about it? You may want to check on this before saying yes just to be sure that he is comfortable with the situation.
2007-03-26 17:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
why not. you have both moved on & it was nice to hear now that you & your daughter were invited to be in the wedding entourage. not too many divorced couples had moved on like yours where no one holds grudges against each other. It will be a welcoming event particulary separated couples for them to witness that another chance of blissful marriage can happen & possibility of separating peacefully and staying friends are best bet so that when time comes that both had re-marry, your children & theirs will not feel displaced but rather come to know early in life their loved ones love ones. . .
2007-03-26 21:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by jables 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! It is their wedding day and I think it would be really sweet, as well as a good example for your little one, for you to stand up with her as long as you don't have any feelings left (other than sharing a child together) for him and you approve of them getting married. People might think it is a little weird at first, but I think once they see you all getting along good it'll be fine...maybe even a relief to his side of the family. I know my exs' families wouldn't have a problem with it!
2007-03-26 19:58:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as your current husband is OK with it and your ex is OK with it, go for it. I happen to feel it's a nice thing. My ex and I are still close and have helped each other often, if she asked me to be part of her wedding I would gladly do it.
Good luck
2007-03-26 17:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by Nort 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you & your husband & ex husband are all ok with it I don't see why not, unless you would be more comfortable just being a guest. Remember you will be in all the pictures as well. Could be she thinks more of you as a friend than you do of her. As for what others think it doesn't matter as long as all of you know what is right.
2007-03-26 17:17:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you wish them the best of luck be here brides maid. Who cares what people think, and your married already
2007-03-26 17:13:15 · answer #10 · answered by shawn 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋