relationship?

Question

i've been in a relationship for about 2 1/2 yrs now and it seems like its going no where. a while ago my boyfriend stole money from me and my family and i have somehow found a way 2 forgive him but now hes doing it again and claims his lying and stealing is a 'disease'. i care and love him alot but when do i know when the right time is to break it off?

Answer 1

When enough is finally enough. People don't realize that disrespectful treatments kills a bit of the love each time - and after a while you are just fed up. There is no right or easy time to do it. If you are living together, you might want to make your alternate living arrangements before you tell him - if he is living with you and your family, I would consider giving him notice or just throwing him out.

It's one thing for us to put up with nonsense for love, but it is entirely another for us to ask our family to do so. I'd say he needs to straighten up or get out.

Peace!

Answer 2

Well it seems to me that your relationship like many others just needs some "oil in the hinges" as to say you both need to be honest with each other and MATURE. Ill tell you something immature persons are not very good at relations. What a relationship is is exactly what it says, "the frequency of relativity," how much do you both have in common, how much alike have you become, in a positive manner? These things are imperial to healthy relations. Why are you attracted? You should ask these questions, and equate the value of the response. For example, two people should be attracted to one another because they ADMIRE each other completely, not just for one or two reasons, totally. Understand that people have many facets, and if you like a guy just because he's cute or smart, or funny, that's certainly not a good enough reason to engage into a romantic relationship with that person. Take time to test waters, if you had done this thoroughly, you would have known the things you didn't like, and possibly could have brought these things to his attention before you knew each other intimately. The relationship should be completely broken off once you notice that the other person doesn't completely respect your feelings, no looking back, as such persons are abusive.

Answer 3

Considering you didn't break it off the first time he chose to show you so much disrespect, it's a good time to do so at this time. Stealing and lying aren't the disease... sinning is... but to some degree it's a disease of choice. And he's choosing to show you disrespect and that he cannot be trusted. He's showing that he ultimately doesn't care. I know it's tough to hear... but thing is... if he loved you, would he hurt you on purpose like that? Not according to MY understanding of love.

Answer 4

Stealing from you? That's a no-go zone. Either break it off with him immediately or offer to find him some help for that "disease" he's got. If he really wants to get rid of it, he should accept. But if he doesn't, I think you should let him go.

As for timing? Make sure he knows why you're breaking it off with him. Other than that, I would say as soon as possible, unless he's willing to get mental help. Then there may be a chance for a longer relationship, if he goes through with it.

Answer 5

LAURA,
IN ALL HONESTY u need to get out of the relationship now if things like that are happening. i know its hard but BELIEVE me, I've been through a rough relationship, I've been treated badly hit, yelled at, probably cheated on and he even hit my dad. we always argued. he may not be doing that stuff now but mine wasn't either. if u let one thing slide he will continue to take advantage of u because he knows u love him but, if he really loves u he wouldn't steal from u or your family. and if he is stealing from u he may have a drug problem why wouldn't he just ask for it instead of taking it? i think u know what u need to do, getting it done is the problem. i wish u the best and i hope u make a decision that is best for u.

Answer 6

if he lies and is forgiven, unfortunately he will think he can always get away with it. i suggest have a break from him and hopefully for you he will realise what he is missing out on, before you take him back explain to him if anything like this happens again it will be over for good.
If he doesn't come back, he never loved you in the first place. and if he steals or lies again, he doesnt respect you.
Dont give in. you deserve so much more.

Answer 7

I think you know that now is a pretty good time to break it off, i know its hard to do but if he is lying and stealing, and you cnat trust him then it cant be a very good relationship, he needs some time to straighten out, its definately not a desease unless he just wants attention. maybe he is on something? be careful and be strong, do what you think is best,.

Answer 8

seems to me like you like it is time to make a decision as to where the relationship is going. 2 1/2 years should be long enough to hang aorund someone who is dishonest and you cannot earn their trust. if u lov him enough and beleive his story, u need to get him to seek professional help. if the relationship is wearing u out and u are being associated with a theif, this can be bad for your reputation.
i am sure u do not want to be implicated or abondoned by your family.

Answer 9

There is no actual right time. Everything that happens in our life has a reason and it is up to us to learn from it. You need to find in your heart if the relationhip is worth keeping. Your boyfriend sounds like he needs psychological help. He should realize that he needs to seek professional help and not steal or lie from you.

Answer 10

It's hard to love someone and then find out that they're slightly using you. In this situation, you should ask yourself whether or not he deserves you...I mean you already gave him the second chance. And think about it, he's not only hurting you, but also your family. You should think about what's your best choice and go for it. =] I feel like Dr. Phil...anyways, good luck!