so iv been with my boyfriend for over year and in the begging of our relationship another girl kissed him! but he pused her away! but for some reason i cant get over it! every time he hangs out with other people i get scared that hes gonna be haning out with another girl! i get so jealous of everything! i know he loves my and hes AMAZING! we have had probblems in our relationship but we got through it all! except for my jealousy! help! how do i get over being jealous!?!?!?! do any of u get jealous alot too?! if so how do u deal with it?!
PLEASE HELP!!!
thanks so much!!
XOXOXO!!
Becky
2007-03-26 16:59:11 · 13 answers · asked by ♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he pushed the girl away, then he is obviously more interested in you than he was in her. It also sounds like she cam onto him and he was devoted to you at the time. And, if it has been a while and you have never heard anything more about that girl coming on to him, I think you are saafe from the girls.
About your jealousy problems...
Try to talk to him. It sounds like you are oth really happy and want to make this work. I don't think you have much to worry about if he pushed the girl away. Just gradually reassure yourself; think of all the things he has done for you and how long you have been together and I am sure the jealousy will pass.
Best of luck!
2007-03-26 17:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by khg831@sbcglobal.net 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust him? If the answer is no then why is that? And if the answer is yes then why are you jealous.
He is free to choose for himself, just because another girl wants to kiss him doesn't mean she gets to. If he wanted to kiss other girls there would be nothing you could do to stop him. As long as he is honest with you about who he's with and what he is doing and he tells you this information voluntarily you have nothing to worry about. If he tries to hide what he's doing or tells you he is in one place but you find out he is in another then there's cause for concern.
Your jealousy works against you. By acting jealous you are pushing him away because when he is acting trust worthy you don't trust him. He may love you but if he feels like you're not going to trust him anyway, he may cheat because then he feels like at least there is reason for the way you are acting, and then what you fear is affirmed, you guys break up and you move on to someone else and repeat the cycle.
2007-03-27 00:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every body gets jealous now and again... if you are always jealous don't second guess yourself. Are you sure you don't have a legitimate radar going off? If you are sure than you have to relax, stop panicking and remember you are worth not being cheated on. If he is cheating on you and you are unaware of it... Someday, you will be aware of it. Look, here's the thing...You are only responsible for one person and that's you, you can only control your behavior and how you respond to the situation... Love like there is no tomorrow and trust like there's never been a reason to doubt it and you'll be OK in the end.... Maybe he is the one, maybe he's not but in the end we kick ourselves for the overreactions we make more than the under-reactions. If he's cheating on you, you will feel better in the end knowing you would not let that make you crazy...Be cool headed and find a way not to need to control everything. (Spoken from experience)
2007-03-27 00:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by Regina L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue isn't jealousy...it is lack of self-esteem. You need to know that you are so amazing yourself that he wouldn't even dream of cheating on you!
Come on girl! Get a grip...look in the mirror and make sure you are looking your best, then look inside and make sure you are acting and feeling your best. Then...let the worries go!
Have fun with him, honey! If you keep this up someone else will come along with less 'issues' and he will for sure be looking to unload an insecure little girl.
Also, if you get some hobbies, interests of your own, you can also hang out with other people without wondering what he's doing.
2007-03-27 00:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by minimickimichelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have insecurity issues. Theres no reason why you should be jealous for people he hangs out with because he obviously loves you and has no other intentions of making moves onto other girls. Your bf seems like an honest guy from the fact that your bf pushed a girl who tried to kiss him.
I think you need to talk to your bf about this issue because its driving you insane. Tell him how you feel and be honest. You guys need to work this problem out together, like all of your other relationship problems that you guys have fixed.
2007-03-27 00:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He proved to you from the beginning that he was not a cheat..You are a very insecure person and need to build your confidence..Maybe you should have more going on than just a boyfriend...he sounds like areal good guy and if you keep it up he may get sick of it and loose interest..I was a very jealous person at the beginning of my marriage but then he proved his faithfulness and it hasn't been an issue for over 16 years now
2007-03-27 00:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by roncj88 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend and I have had rough spots in our relationships too and most of them have been caused by jealousy. It's not that I'm jealous...but more so that HE is. I can't have tons of fun without him calling every 20 minutes because he's worried about what I'm up to. We often fight and I tell him that he can't control my life. He's learning to understand. You and your boyfriend will be fine. Jealousy has no cure except for understanding and trust. Trust your man, it means more than love sometimes.
2007-03-27 00:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jealousy is the worst thing we have to deal with. Think of it like this, do you trust him? if yes, then what is there to worry about? Nothing!!!!!!! He is not interested he pushes the women away and he already prooved that to you. Jealousy is also another word for "insecurity" sorry but its true, try not to feel insecure, you trust him and love him so that is the greatest thing we can have going for us. Nothing to worry about because you trust and love him. When you leave the jealousy behind you will enjoy your man so much more, because its more intimate. Take care Heather
2007-03-27 00:04:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Becky I'm Joe, 19 and married. I know huh wow 19 and married lol, my answer would be to sit down with him and make sure that he understands how you feel about other women. But you also need to put a little bit more trust into ur relationship wit him. If you love some1 u can set them free every now n then k ttyl josephwrate18@yahoo.com bye
2007-03-27 00:06:11 · answer #9 · answered by craZeJojO!!!!!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I get amjor jealous as does my friend. I think she's over-jealous, insecure and should get over it. But at the same time I know where she's coming from. I know that it sucks and I know that there doesn't seem to be anything to do about it. It's not worth worrying about yet we have to. I have not resolved this question and would love to see others answers.
2007-03-27 00:06:47 · answer #10 · answered by stars 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋