well, i have been with my boyfriend for almost 15 months, and i love him very dearly. he means the world to me. and i know he loves me too.
but lately i have been having that deep down female intuition that he is cheating on me, or at least has been doing things i would not be okay with. and i am not quite too sure why i feel this way, which is what bothers me a lot about it. i was worried that i was just paranoid because i have in fact been cheated on before, but i feel no remorse or resentment towards my past relationships because of that. i feel i have let go of that in every way. so i do not necessarily feel that that's whats causing this feeling.
i do not feel at all that i could communicate to him this idea. i have brought up similar things before, and he is extremely defensive and is extremely angry and upset with me for "even thinking it".
i would appreciate your opinion on this problem, thank you.
2007-03-26 16:52:34 · 4 answers · asked by kayyyy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry, but usually someone who becomes extremely defensive and angry when confronted with something like this is guilty of the accusation.
He should be able to listen to your question and answer to your liking, not acting defensive. I'd ask around his friends and try to find out the truth. I've a feeling you won't like what you find out...
2007-03-26 16:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety.. I have learned in my life that if I have just a slight inclination that anyone is crossing me or doing something behind my back, it's usually true. I would keep bringing up. You can't have a relationship without honesty and open communication. His defensiveness is not a good sign either, but then again he could be really mad that you just don't trust him. You need to have trust. and listen to his feelings. If he doesn't express his feelings that way you want him to or if you find him spending significantly less time with you and more time doing other things, that could be a sign that the relationship is taking a turn for the worst. If that's not the case then just talk to him and tell him how you feel about cheating. he should be more understanding considering your past situation. You might not be getting the attention that you deserve. I hope everything goes well for you. take care!
2007-03-27 00:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by sweetnsouthern 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first sign of guilt is anger and defensive nature. He seems to be unwilling to sincerely address your concerns. And the verdict is GUILTY! Seriously though, tell him that the fact he gets upset when you mention it makes you that much more suspicious. That probably won't solve anything, but healthy relationships involve open communication that you SHOULDN'T have to feel is unwelcome.
2007-03-26 23:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by lejosmcoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing i have learned in life is that you should always listen to your gut..You may be wrong but look into it.The old saying goes if it don't make sense it most likely is not true
2007-03-26 23:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by roncj88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋