dad having mid life crisis?

Question

my dad locked himself in the guest bedroom for 4 months and would only come out for work. one day my parents and i were going to the mall and he yelled at some kids for blocking our driveway. right then he started acting strange and a month later he went to the guest bedroom. now he went to his moms and plans to divorce. he's left home already 2 years ago and came crying back. my mom and i believe he's going through a midlife crisis, because he is 43 and he told me he just wants to enjoy life to the fullest which to me sounds like a crisis! what do you all think?

actually, he went to his moms until he gets an apartment

Answer 1

This isn't a midlife crisis. He could have health issues, such as manic-depression. Your mom should try to get him to go to counseling with her. She can tell him it is for HER to learn how to cope. Maybe the counselor will be able to uncover something.

Answer 2

sounds like what my father did when i was about 12 years old. he was in his mid 30's at the time. But i will agree that it sounds like a midlife crisis. The best thing you and your mom can do is try to comfort him and help him find himself again. He's probably feeling a little trapped and doesn't know what to do. showing your love and support should help him through it.

Answer 3

Your dad is going through a bad depression. A lot of men his age do and the only thing you can do is get him professional help. I went through the same thing and I can tell you I didn't always know why I felt the way I did, I just did. If he won't get help then you should try to get him interested in something that will get him out and about like him joining a club or a lodge. He needs to be with people who are like him.

Answer 4

Yes and No. Yes, because a lot of men of that age group go through what is refered to as a "mid-life crisis" where they start wanting to do exciting and spontaneous things that normally they wouldnt do and even seem out of character to do..However, secluding himself the way you describe, really kind of sounds like depresion of some sort..but I suppose the "crisis" and depression go hand in hand. If your mom suggests he gets some therapy at least just to help him get through this..it may save their marraige..eventually, he will calm down. Best wishes.

Answer 5

He sounds like he needs some help; he sounds fragile and unpredictable, I would be very concerned. That is pretty far fetched to lock yourself in a bathroom for months, really, think about it.

I wouldn't damn him, but I certainly wouldn't want him in the home until he gets a thorough psychological and physical work-up, he may need medication, may even have a physical problem that needs urgent attention, like a tumor, etc.

It will be a lot of work, but this is when he needs you the most and I would insist on him seeking help.

Answer 6

A mid-life crisis is one possibility. Another is possible depression, maybe a lot of stress at work. Maybe your parents are having marital problems you don't know about (and they want to keep it that way). Whatever it is, I hope your Dad gets help before he does something drastic (like the divorce) that he may regret later.

Answer 7

I think your mom is right, he is definitely having a crisis all right. Men feel like they need to do something a young person does, like buy the car of their dreams or get divorced or sleep with a 20 year old all because he needs to feel like he is still young. Its terribe what they go through. Get him into marriage couseling he will feel better or just couseling for himself he needs it. Take care Heather

Answer 8

wow. just like my dad. he is 46 and divorced my mom a year ago, with the basis of living life to the fullest. only difference is that my dad hasnt locked himself in a room for months...

Answer 9

I know you are concerned about your Dad, but he's not your responsibility. Let him (and your Mom) know you love them, and let them work this out. I know it's easy for the children to get caught up in the middle, but it's the children that suffer the most from this. I hope it works out for the best, whether he stays or not. You deserve to be happy, too.

Answer 10

He is having a depression. Need to consult a psychiatrist -- psychology *** medicine treatment. Family members need to be more understanding & give support. Having a min 2-weeks back-to-nature peaceful holiday break may help.