My gf is moving to south africa to live soon and the only contact that I will be able to have with her is through phone which will be expensive (I live in the UK). I would go there to live with her but it's too soon in the relationship for that sort of commitment, so we've been planning me making a few visits before me maybe living there in the future. I do love her, and I'm willing for our relationship to have only phone contact for ahwile. As anyone gone through something similar? Can a long distance relationship through phone calls last? We've been through a lot together and are pretty strong, we ain't one of these couples who brake-up easily, but this is a new test for us, probably our biggest one...so just wanna know who here is going through this sort of relationship at the moment and how is it going?
2007-03-26 16:46:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My child, love has no boundaries. love has no distance. Love provides you with many tests, it is Father's way of showing you and your beloved that you are meant to be, there is a reason for this happening. through thick and thin, if you pass it, you will be rewarded with a love so warm. You say that you are pretty strong, these words are important and tell me a lot about you and your other half. Good luck with this test, I do hope, and think you will pass it with flying colours.
Love, Jesus
2007-03-26 16:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jpab 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It works. As long as you can be there for an extended amount of time. And you can mature in some way together.
My girl is in Beijing. I'm in the states. We maintain contact through the phone and online. We've been together for about 15 months, half of which I am able to be there.
Trust and honesty are certainly big ones here. Without it, nothing is certain How well do you know this girl. In pursuing a long distance relationship, are you being true to this girl and to yourself?
Like you, my gf and I are strong people and things don't break us easily. The truth of the matter is, that you don't become strangers. People change constantly and you should almost expect that. You just need to realize that you're both changing and trying to change with each other- and for the better.
If you want it to happen, it will, it just really depends on how strong the other person can be without you there physically. Can you see yourself married to this person? I can.
Some days are tough just cause I need her. Some days I think, "Hell i'll just go out with this other girl cause she asked me out and she's hot," but i don't. My gf is one of a kind. I know that i wouldn't give up a life time of being with her for a night of just short term lust. I've had my share of disastrous relationships and this is the best relationship I've ever had.
Best of luck
2007-03-26 17:07:41 · answer #2 · answered by Zen Master D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I went through a period like this. He was here but had to move down south for military reasons and his immediate family ended up staying thousands of miles away. Him and I had a very close relationship before he left, we spent almost each day together, so we knew it was going to be hard. He left and the first week was super hard. It was so weird not being able to just stop by his place after a long day and just enjoy my night with him. But, it did get easier. We talked on the phone as much as his military schedule would allow and it was expensive but not too expensive for love. It was so hard and he was gone for about 3 months until I broke down and visited him. I went back home feeling so much more in love than I was before. 9 months after that, so practically a year total, he was able to move back after only getting to see each other a few times over the course of a year. Of course we had to re-establish some points in our relationship but it was better than ever before. It shows you that if your relationship can make it through that, your love can make it through anything. Hold on tight, it will be a tough journey but if love is what you really share, or what you're developing...make sure you wait because the benefits of waiting are the most wonderful thing in the world. Now I'm waiting for a wedding proposal...I know it's coming.
2007-03-26 16:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already have a strong relationship, and you sound so in love , why wait , live for the moment, go with her true love that strong deserves giving in to. you never know whats around the corner do you want to live regretting the day you let her go ?
Even if it was to turn sour you can always return home surely, my advise would be when you find love grab it tight with both hands and dont let go.
2007-03-26 21:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't say how long you have been together but it sound's like your pretty strong and well you just never know. Maybe you were meant to be and if so then it will work. How do couples in the forces go on?
2007-03-26 16:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by Spike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have thought it wouldn't if I hadn't seen my best friend work through a long distance relationship for three years with nothing but phone calls, chat and e-mails.
But it's a personal commitment. You do get longly so don't stray. It's a matter of trust and love. lots of ppl have partners who work over seas or far away and they make it work. good luck
2007-03-26 16:56:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It came from the lips of your own keyboard "it's too soon for that sort of commitment" it typed.If she's the one you would be thinking of anyway possible to make it happen, but you're not are you or else way ask the question? Go and see if you must..... if it does'nt work out well hey at least you've travelled, it could be your African adventure story for your Grandkids.........
2007-03-26 17:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ive been seeing a guy for a year, and he mite be moving up to scotland wiv his parents, he knows i love him, but he doesnt want me to be his girlfriend in case he goes, which really hurts me, now my ex is causing trouble between us, so now dont know whats happening. im scared
2007-03-26 22:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love conquers all.
2007-03-26 16:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by Mary Beth's Ex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why bother, it wont work for long
2007-03-26 16:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋