I dont want to lose my virginity, but.......?

Question

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As I said, i dont want to lose my virginity, but my boyfriend gave me a headache!!

He told me that we can have sex without losing it ( sex in the butt)

Is it really won't affect me?
I dont know but im kind of scared specially when my doctor told me that i might be pregnant because sprim swim and could penetrate...

So, is it ok to take some kind of medicine to avoid that? and again by taking these tablets will i be affected??

Im 20 years old :)

Answer 1

If your bf loves you he will respect your decision. Virginity is an unbelievable thing to have to just throw it away just because ur bf is giving u a headache. Once u lose that precious , intimate gift, you will never get it back again.
If he doesnt respect this part of u then he doesnt respect u as a person and as a woman

Answer 2

Sara, you sound like you are very young, but I'd like to give you my advice anyway.I think you should not do something you dont feel comfortable doing. Technically you wouldnt be losing your virginity if you had sex thru the butt but that shouldnt be the way you want to experience sex. Dont ever feel pressured to give into a sexual act because you want someone else to be happy. There's nothing you can take unless it like a birth control pill but even that is not 100% and it doesnt protect you from an STD. Get another boyfriend!

Answer 3

id love to know what schools and parents are actually teaching kids about sex these days as it seems there are so many kids out there with out a clue?? this is no offence to you of course any way im not sure exactly how old you are but dont be in such a hurry to have sex i no its all new and exciting to you now but youll wonder why you ever rushed into it one day. you can not loose your virginity thru anal sex loosing your virginity is thru penetrating the virgina and breaking the hymen but be aware anal sex can be extremly uncomfortable for the girl you cant get pregnant from anal sex as it does not lead to the reproductive organs but you need to be ver aware of stds you can still contract them thru anal dont rush into this sort of stuff ok your only young once good luck

Answer 4

Hi if you dont want to lose your virginity then DONT if your boyfriend cant wait until you are ready then he is not the guy to be with , he should have respect for you and if he truely loved you he will wait until you are ready , you dont want to give in to his needs you will regret it in the future this is supposed to be a beautifull moment for the both of you sounds like your boyfriend is selfish and only thinking about himself honestly would he take it up the butt, dont do it you could end up bleeding really bad or all sorts of things , i think for him to say that to you he is degrading you and taking you for granted , dont do anything you dont want to do if you give into him how are you going to feel if he dumps you in the future no relationship is worth that , wait until you are ready and if your boyfriend isnt prepared to wait then he is not a very nice guy he sounds like a complete idiot if he loved you he wouldnt be asking you to do this all he is thinking about is getting his own rocks off this will not be nice for you at all hes a moron wake up to that and get rid of him i think you could do better with someone more caring for your thoughts and not just his own

Answer 5

Oral sex, anal sex, vaginal sex... IT'S SEX ALL THE SAME.

And anal sex is much dirtier and disease-carrying than regular sex, for obvious reasons. You need to be extra-careful. And yes, you can get pregnant from it. The morning after pill is all that is available to prevent pregnancy if you've already had sex.

Basically, anal is not the best way to go if you are concerned about pregnancy or disease. And your boyfriend probaby has homosexual tendencies if he wants it that way. And I respect your decison to remain a virgin, but you've already had sex. You shouldn't have let your boyfriend give you a headache - he doesn't care about you enough to respect your wishes.

Answer 6

Your boyfriend is a liar. If he penetrates you, anywhere, its sex, you're still in danger of any of the same issues/diseases you could get from vaginal sex. If you're not ready, you're not ready, and dont let your boyfriend persuade you into doing something you dont want to do, just to make him happy. If he cares about you, he'll wait. If not he'll split and find an easy girl, but if he does that, then you're much better off without him.

Answer 7

i always thought that you only lost your virginity if he broke your hymen... well, your anus is kinda close to your vagina... even if he does you anally, you both should still take precautions; since you're a virgin, in the heat of the moment you might not know the difference if his penis slips out of your butt and slides into your other hole, and that would be bad! remember, no contraceptive is 100% good; there's always a chance something might happen. and some girls like anal sex; others are repulsed. if you actually do it, make sure your anus is clean (otherwise it would be very easy, not to mention gross, for his penis to pick up some sort of bacterial infection from whatever feces reside in your hole). and it will hurt (your anus, unlike your vagina, is not designed for his penis), and it might cause bleeding or tearing. best of luck, whatever you decide.

Answer 8

If you dont like it, then dont. For a moment of pleasure, the risk involve is high. Getting in to sex is not a key to a good and successful relationship. How about if your BF would not be your future husband. Would your future husband deserves it. Your BF option is correct, but the question is, are you going to let him do it? If your BF really loves you, she should think twice and respect your choice or preference.

Answer 9

well it is true that your hymen wont get broke if you only take it up the butt. anal sex is sex. i suggest that you get a new doctor. the only way u can get pregnant is to have unprotected VAGINAL sex or if the protection fails during VAGINAL sex. as far as the med you are talking about you Only have 48 hours to take it after intercourse. some people consider ANY sort of birth control as abortion, so the decision is up to you. by the way if you have to ask thes questions IT IS TOO SOON, you shouldn't be having sex.

Answer 10

No one should get married before the age of 28.

No one should have sex before 30.

No one should try to have kids until the age of 65.

There. I've just solved all the problems of mankind, in ONE generation.

Seriously, you might want to consider buckling down to your studies right now, and ignoring boyfriends who just want to use you.

Free love and sex were cute like socialism and communism; sounded like great ideas at the time but they just didn't work.