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i KNO ITS ALOT BUT HELP
i dont kno what to do everythin is just gettin pushed on me
when i was in 6th grade i almost commited suicide cuz no 1 was really my friend i was like a loner..i was the fat gurl & my parents dident understand & where always arguin & blamin shyt on me & tell me stuff & not takin it bak like my mom mostly.

then in JR. High everythin startin gettin really good & had friends that i could trust & where always there for me & lost ALOT of wieght..& my parents where still mean & arguin..but i just dealed wit it

well last summer my parents told me some thins bout my life that i didnt kno & really hurt me & effected me

my frnds started to believe what other people told them & likes stuff that i was sayin bout them but it wasent true..kno i dont kno who to trust or who REALLY is my true friends..my parents argue alot mor!! & say stuff that hurts mor mostly my mom (its like almost emotion abuse but they never hit me).im gettin alil bigger, JUST ALIL BUT I HATE

2007-03-26 16:43:46 · 13 answers · asked by .:CHULA:. 2 in Family & Relationships Family

theres mor deetails but im not goin 2 get into details...to deal wit it i just cut my self..instead of killin my self but i fell like im hangin frm a thread...& killin my self is just around the corner

2007-03-26 16:45:56 · update #1

13 answers

Please don't - things might seem bad, but i am sure there is a way to make you feel better. There has to be someone- a friend, family member, teacher, someone that you can talk to / if not please go to your school counsellor and talk. Things sometimes can feel very tough, but don't give up. After you talk to someone- about what is bothering you , you will prob. feel a little better. I really hope you are OK, and things get better!

2007-03-26 17:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by ***35*** 3 · 0 0

With the family issure, you sound just like me. I hated my family ever since I knew them; most of them I still do. I have alcoholic parents and live with my grandparents; never a day went by without arguing. I tried suicide as well many times. What helped me was a teacher in 7th grade. She taught me to write poetry, and to this day (now 20) that's how I get through times like that; I put on some relaxing music and write whatever comes to mind.

Also, I don't know what I would have done if I didn't have the psychologist/counselor in middle school and high school. They help tremendously. Just to have someone sit there and listen to you relieves so much stress and tension.

It sure didn't look like it then, but now I feel blessed that I was brought up in a home like that. It made me who I am today; it taught me so many things that can't be learned in the classroom. Things happen for a reason, and if you're anything like me and/or others that I know that came from similar homes, you will make a difference in someones life one day through having this experience.

As for the weight, who cares. If the doctor doesn't say anything about it, then there's nothing to worry about it. Loose the weight if and only if YOU want to loose it; not for your friends or family; you can try but it wont work..... trust me.

Just remember, everything happens for a reason...... there's a reason why you were born to a family like that; it's up to you to figure out why.

One more thing to remember: no matter what, there will always be someone out there with a worse problem. An old saying: I used to complain about not having shoes, until I met a man who had no feet.

2007-03-26 17:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kitty 4 · 0 0

Don't cut on yourself, it is not the answer and neither is suicide. Sometimes parents argue and need to separate, but think it is better if they don't. Don't be so hard on yourself. You don't have any control over your parents. You can make your life better and lose weight. Start with believing in yourself and using positive coping skill. Keep a journal and talk to your parents about going to counseling for you and maybe as a family. Do they know you cut on yourself? Go see your school counselor and ask for help. True friends will stick by you and if not make new ones. You are young and friends change dime a dozen. It will get better.

2007-03-26 17:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0 0

I am sure you are a smart one, because most smart people are very sensitive, and that is something bright people has to deal with.

Picture you life as if you were using a microscope, please read this entirely and then do it again trying to concentrate in every step:

Imagine you every day life as a not regulated lens, then order your brain to look for the right spot, at the same time imagine you problems as the blury parts, Please stay at least four minutes thinking and Visualizing them, every fight, every sad moment, all the things that make you sad.

Then picture yourself as the clear spot, looking strong, smart, succesful, do this for five more minutes.

Imagine a big, BIG, ENORMOUS, YOU inside your actual YOU, like two different human being, imagine this person (YOU) hugging you, so strong that you could almost hurt yourself, exhale air through you mouth several times, repeat it as long as you want.

YOU, ONLY YOU have the power to overcome EVERYTHING that will come around in you life, years go by so fast, you have to hold yourself, the time for you will come.

Eevery day repeat to yourself the hugging session, that will make you feel better and will help you to get to the point YOU want in life.

Forgive your parents, never stop loving them, remember that in part they are maybe acting the way they do because they were treated the way you are treated right now, and they didn't knew how to develop protection from their bad experiences.

Brake the cycle, TAKE IT AS A RESPONSABILTY, make it you goal.

wish you all the best.

A LOT OF HUGS FOR YOU. good luck

2007-03-26 17:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by MARIA 2 · 0 0

Don't worry about your weight and believe me, popularity is not all it's cracked up to be. It's hard to live in a home where there's always tension, arguing, etc. The best thing you can do, is either talk to a counselor, and psychotherapy would be great for you, to help you with your self image, and to see ways you can cope instead of cutting. If you feel suicidal, please call a hotline, or talk to a reliable adult. You need to have a way to reduce the stress in your life.

2007-03-26 17:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Don't cut yourself!!! really what does that do for you? I don't want to be mean but that's rediculous. I never had any friends in school that i actually hung out with outside of school, hell i still don't got friends but anyway i know where ur comin from whatever you do don't kill yourself just live your life and if your parents don't straighten out then just leave when you turn 18. theirs no sense in stickin around for that shyt. trust me though it gets better as you age.

2007-03-26 17:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

do no longer do something you may no longer undo. do no longer injury your self... it somewhat won't sparkling up something. I strongly propose you flow see your counselor in college. they're there which will assist you, and he or she might desire to have the flexibility which will assist you handle a number of your issues or locate you yet another professional which will assist you. purely dangle in there. In some extra years you will have the flexibility to head out of your place, hit upon a activity, stay on your very own, and locate your very own happiness with out your mum and dad yelling and with out the junior severe/severe college crowd. For precise now, communicate on your friends.. in the event that they do no longer have faith you, forget approximately them. What good is a chum which you would be able to no longer remember on? you will locate others. connect a set or club of something you savor and get to comprehend new human beings.

2016-10-20 12:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

wow i go threw the same thing you do i cry every day and i get depressed because my mom emotionally abuses me and sumtimes hits me but u have to find happiness in ur life one thing that makes ppl really happy is music well for me it does or telling on ur parents so u can get a new family or sumthing

2007-03-26 17:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by shar main lady 3 · 0 0

Talk to your counselor. You need more help than anyone can give you on a chat board.

2007-03-26 16:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0 0

PLEASE TALK TO A PROFESSIONAL. Don't hurt yourself. You can get through this. You don't get anymore than what you can handle, again you can get through this. Just get through school and make a life for yourself. Don't take your life, them people are not worth it. Please I beg you a lot of us beg you. Be safe and stay from harm.

2007-03-26 17:07:15 · answer #10 · answered by V_6DK 1 · 0 0

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