I am in a relationship so this is just a hypothetical question. Many here have stated that one of the most desirable traits of a man is a good sense of humor. Has any of you gone out with/thought about going out with a man whose life has been so tough that he lost his sense of humor - even though he wishes he could get it back but can't seem to - or do you view such a man as a loser to be avoided at all costs?
2007-03-26 16:42:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A rhetorical question DEMANDS no answer but you are free to give one because I am curious.
2007-03-26 16:55:51 · update #1
Kelly r it not only is possible I know someone like that; he used to love SNL and all that but nothing seems to cheer him up anymore. He doesn't even respond to jokes but ignores them.
2007-03-26 16:58:33 · update #2
He used to be a big fan of Mad Magazine and even visited their offices and met some writers.
2007-03-26 17:00:14 · update #3
nioctcrypt: could you really expect him to love his life if he is an alcoholic with an alcoholic father, lost his only child, a wife died of a brain tumor after which he was taken to the cleaners by the next (his ex) who ruined his credit and who poisoned all his family and friends against him and ran all the employees of his company away, can you?
2007-03-26 17:27:23 · update #4
actually I've always been sorta drawn to men with no sense of humor. Those are the ones who've hit rock bottom & really need someone to come along and bring them back up. Not that I'm out to save the world...but there's something very sexy about a man who's at his worst. It goes to show that men have feelings and emotions, contrary to what many women think. Not to mention it's extremely rewarding to be there for them when they do come around. The last sad man I dated was my current husband & now we are happy as can be!!! A man with no sense of humor is like a shaved head - it WILL come back, you just have to give it some time.
2007-03-26 17:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't answer this question, because it's rhetorical. That means I'm not supposed to answer it.
Rhetorical and hypothetical are not synonyms.
Now if this were hypothetical and not rhetorical, my answer would be this: I have found that humor is MORE necessary when life is tough. I would say that perhaps the person didn't have much a sense of humor to start. Another theory is that he might be chemically imbalanced. The worst times in my life are the ones that call for the most humor...perhaps it's darker...but laughter keeps me going. (Drifting to thoughts of the fit of giggles my cousin and I had at our aunt's funeral. She would have thought it was funny too...).
2007-03-26 16:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by rumezzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that man would need to get his sense of humor back is a good women with the same qualities, someone that will help him forget all his troubles at least when his with her or thinking about her.
You cant view a man as a loser because his is going through a bad patch, the women that sticks around and brings him up again, is the one he will always remember.
I haven't experienced it, but if I did I would do anything to help him get it back, sense of humor is one of the qualities that makes a man look like the most perfect man even if his not.
2007-03-26 16:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by none 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been close to men who've been kicked around by life and would consider them as dates if I was single now. I, too, consider a sense of humor as a great trait (my husband is gifted with this) but a man who takes things seriously, for whatever reason, is certainly not a loser! People are worth the effort to see what's buried inside them.
2007-03-26 16:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by C.J.S. 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A loser? No way.A man like you described would be desirable if he was kind and shows a good spirit even after enduring a rough life. I admire people who overcome tough times and move forward. It shows so very much character. He doesn't have to be a stitch a minute. Besides I am so full of it, I'm sure we would find some common funny ground..lol
2007-03-26 16:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I guess that would depend on the woman. I mean, most women like to have a laugh sometimes. I cant imagine being with someone who was just sad and gloomy all the time. But I mean he doesnt have to be all annoyingly funny all the time either. I will tell you though, that most women love to feel needed. And if you have had a rough life, that will make most women want to "help" you feel better :) I know it sounds weird, but most women just want to feel needed. hope that helps.
2007-03-26 16:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not really like that, but if his lifes been so tough that he cant laugh at anything at all anymore than i cant see him furfilling my needs. He needs to love his life and himself before i can begin to love him. Im not in a relationship for the frequent ups and downs, im in it for the quality of the overall ride. Hope that helps!
2007-03-26 16:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how his communication skills are, and how he behaves. There is always going to be some level of sense of humor. Even if life has been so utterly miserable.
2007-03-26 16:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by sarlha 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i cant believe that its possible to lose your sense of humor. i would prescribe force feeding of comedy central for two weeks if nothing has made you laugh by then you might have a problem
2007-03-26 16:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by kelly r 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I cant be with a man who doesnt have a sense humor!!!
2007-03-26 16:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by chelsmat2001 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋