I've been missing a girl for 11 months. I liked her, then fell in love with her, but she never liked me back. She got mad at me for a mistake I made which takes too much explanation and two months later she told me she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I HAD NOT been talking to her since she said she didn't want to talk to me anymore. So I gave her what she wanted. We used to say hi occasionally after that when we went back to school. I thought things would be cool between us so recently for the 1st time I tried to talk to her. When I asked her how she was, she kept her back turned towards me, unlike when I saw her sneak so many glances at me this past year. She texted on her phone. She never even looked at me, never said a word. I told her I only wanted us to be friends again but she wasn't hearing me. She talked to everyone who came in the hall but me. I just said "ok, I get the point, you don't have to say anything else. I guess I'll just see you around." I left the hall.
2007-03-26 16:37:38 · 5 answers · asked by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Her birthday is in two days. Should I just SAY happy birthday to her (she's turning 17 and I'm 17) or completely IGNORE her?
If I ignore her (which she did to me this year on my birthday and she knew it was my birthday) wouldn't that just be being immature, being petty, or doing evil for evil? Even though I think that's what I have to do.
If I at least say happy birthday, then am I being the bigger person, showing that I'm still going to treat her right no matter how she treats me (although I'M ALREADY PAYING HER NO ATTENTION by not calling, messaging, or talking to her except for when I said I tried) ?
We had a friendship that lasted 4 months and I care about her alot, enough to WANT to get her something just because (as well as to let her go) but I'm just NOT going to. After her birthday, I'm forgetting all about her because I see that she'll never care for me the way I do for her.
2007-03-26 16:40:02 · update #1
Wait, I forgot about my idea to slyly both recognize her birthday and ignore her. The idea is:
(1) I won't say happy birthday to her or look at her
(2) I'll tell her friend(s) that I know it's her birthday, but if she says anything about me not saying happy birthday to her (which she probably won't)
(3) Then her friend(s) (who talk to me) Could tell her that I probably knew it was her birthday but didn't say anything in order to give her what she wants and stay out of her life.
2007-03-26 17:06:14 · update #2
DONT say happy birthday. shes not good to you. you've tried being good to her. enough is enough. stop trying. she doesnt deserve your kind words. two things can happen. you will completely stop talking and that will be the end of that (she sounds very immature anyway). or, as soon as you stop showing her attention she will miss you. in which case it still wouldnt be a good idea to run back to her. think about it.
2007-03-26 16:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by SweetDarlin' 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she has made it very clear that she does not want to have anything to do with you. You may have considered you mistake minor but it was obviously major to her. Her sneaking glances are just looking to judge when you will go away. Don't talk to her, don't get her anything you'll just ruin her birthday for her. You are not being the bigger person, she wants nothing to do with you, to her you are inconsiderate and annoying. What ever you thinik of her behaviour for get her, don't ignore her, forget her.
Sorry if any of that sounded personal but we all have our side of the story and we all like to think that we are right. What ever happened between you guys, learn not to make those mistakes again and move on for real.
2007-03-26 23:50:04 · answer #2 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are moving on then just say Happy B'day and let it go at that.
2007-03-26 23:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my birthday is tomorrow...ill be happy to accept your simple happy birthday (wiNk) :)
2007-03-28 00:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by lexydangle08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should say happy birthday. then she knows you still care.
2007-03-26 23:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by curtis w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋