so heres the situation: i took a girl out to a restaurant, had a great time - was there for like 2 hrs, took her home and talked for bout another hr. we both said we had a great time and i left. i called a couple days later and we talked for like an hr n a half. during the convo i asked her if she was free this comin weekend and she said maybe but no promises and that was cool wit me cuz she's just bein honest. BUT during our convo she was talkin bout how she had coffee with this other guy she had met for the first time, and they also spent like 3 hrs together....so yeah it seemed like she spent a good 30-45 mins of our convo talkin bout him. of course i dnt wana show im jealous but at the same time im not sure what to do. i realy wanna go out on a 2nd date and make my move but not sure if itll be successful cuz she seemed like she really likes this other guy too. good thing is he's much older than she is and he smokes a lot which she doesn't like. so guyz tel me wut i shuld do
2007-03-26 16:35:54 · 8 answers · asked by Paul Smith 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Welcome to the world of dating pal. This situation is quite normal I assure you and her being honest about her other date was actually a good. thing. She is testing the waters so to speak...picking and choosing who she wants to spend time with. Would you rather have her lie to you? Besides one date means absolutely nothing....not even a promise for another date. How you handle this will determine if she wants to see you again. Handle it jealously or like a psycho and she won't ever want to see you again. Play it cool. And, remember you are competing for her attention. Now, if things go different and you were having sex with her, then that would be different. She would be considered trampy and dangerous to sleep with. She sounds decent enough to me by being honest.
2007-03-26 16:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think she disrespected you by bringing up another guy just like that, and you shouldn't put up with that. It could have even been a test, just to see what you would do. If she is interested in this other guy then that's all well and good, but don't let her play you and don't be played out. Ask her what's up with that. You gotta think more of yourself and don't second guess situations. If it doesn't feel right or good to you, that's the time to put a stop to sh*t like that by either walking away, getting off the phone telling the girl you don't need to know that and why or all of the above. Although you do deserve respect, women like that only respect you if you respect yourself and show it.
2007-04-03 20:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think u should give it another shot. arrange another meeting with her. calmly explain 2 her how u feel. but if she doesn't understand how u feel, then she wasn't worth your time in the first place & there is something better in store for you. so at least try 2 arrange a lunch date, but if things don't work out...well just wait a little...your princess may even be right under your nose. Good Luck!
2007-03-26 23:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by trini$hingy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Game on!! You've got competition, and you've gotta want to win. If you think she'd be better off with you, show her why. Make her believe you're the best bet.
2007-03-26 23:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by lejosmcoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would move on because she went out with u and now this other guy?
she does not truely like u
2007-03-26 23:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by monkeyluver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think monkeyluver is right, you should move on cause it probably wont work if she doesnt take you seriously now.
2007-03-26 23:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart
2007-03-26 23:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by Dana O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch!!!
2007-04-03 22:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by ~'J3sus Sid3 W@rri○r '~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋