My husband is deployed to Afgan, and i am 6 months pregnant. I feel really depressed, and alone. What can i do to get out of this slump? I feel good for a while when i get to talk to him on the phone. It helps to ease me. But eventually, i just get back into this hole. I feel like to dont have anyone to talk to. No one to turn to. He is my best freind, and i miss him so very much. Any advice....anyone?!?!
2007-03-26 16:33:15 · 14 answers · asked by litl_angel_j 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Cheer up hun! try not to be depressed coz its not good for your baby. Just find something to do that you enjoy doing and make your self busy with something at least that way it cease your boredom or how about try to watch comedy movies for a laugh ;)
2007-03-26 16:42:16 · answer #1 · answered by Lara Croft 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
(((hugs))) and hang in there. It can't be easy being pregnant and having him gone. (Heck, I actually know it's not come to think of it.) But what you're feeling sounds in the normal range.
If communication with your DH is helping you feel better than concentrate on that. I know phone calls happen when they happen but you can write whenever you want. Either letters you send or a diary/journal for him to read when he gets home. And e-mail if he has access.
Find something to stay busy. Maybe setting up for your baby. Or find a hobby to concentrate on. I used to have sewing projects of new outfits to greet DH when he came home. Or volunteer. I know base services have opportunities and would love new volunteers.
Most importantly, though, is find people to support you. Whether it is family flying out to help you periodically or going home to them for a while parents, brother, sisters, aunts and uncles all can offer wonderful support.
Get involved in you FRG (Family Readiness Group). The people there will be going through what you are at the exact same time you are. Support from them can be invaluable and also offer a way to stay informed about DH's schedule.
Get involved in your church or other community groups. Although these people might not be military they can offer lots of help when you need it.
Wherever you find supportive people, do it. And don't be afraid to take them up on their offers of help. Take it from me, it's really frustrating to be able and willing to help and not have the other person be willing to let you.
Hang in there and take one day at a time. He'll be home soon even if it doesn't always feel that way.
2007-03-27 06:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get in contact with an army chaplain and he will help you...they have great contacts...don't be down, be proud of your husband and all he is doing. You know he would rather be there with you and he does not want you sad. Please get help. My daughter just married a soldier on the 11 th and he went back to his base so I sort of understand what you are going thru...she lives with us for now until he gets home you can e mail me and i will chat with you when I can. where do you live? I am in the mid west. How about getting ready for that baby....that should be quite the project to get rolling on so when daddy comes home everything is perfect. I want to help. I want you happy for baby and hubby.granny
2007-03-26 19:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always think that your husband is doing important mission for the good of your country and for a living. Thinking and feeling that way are very consoling. We have to thank him for his sacrifices. You are not alone. No one is ever alone. Somehow, somewhere up there, someone cares. These consoling thoughts will gve you happiness.
2007-04-02 17:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by henry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By all means contact the unit family support group for your husbands unit. If his unit doesn't have one contact ACS- Army community services to get with other family support groups in your area. They also have things you can volunteer for to support the military and families. This will give you something great to do and make time go by faster. God bless ya and good luck.
PS. All the other services if he isn't Army have similar organizations.
2007-03-26 16:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Join a "wife of the military" type of support group. I'm sure there are thousands of men and women that feel the same as you do in this difficult time. You can discuss what things you can do to support your spouses overthere and other helpful things.
2007-03-26 16:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by Eisbär 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
looks like a lot of good advice . i say this to you go do some volunteer work to help others like you and most of all don't fall for some guy to fill the empty spot your husband is doing a great duty for his country be proud and hang in there for you the baby and Hubey i will pray for you and you should pray too
2007-04-02 09:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by Dennis 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how hard it can be my fiancee was in Iraq.I missed him horribly.I would get depressed,he is my bestfriend.I felt like there was no one to turn to.I'm not a military wife but I know there are support groups on base.Also there are plenty of online support groups for military wives on yahoo,military.com,myspace.
2007-03-26 17:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by support our troops 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest finding other Army wives who are going through the same thing.
Look at the spouse forum on military.com
2007-03-26 16:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by Curt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you need someone to talk to. Check out military.com. They have forums specifically for military spouses. You can also email me if you need help. backsyncer_04@yahoo.com Good luck sweetheart. You will make it.
2007-03-26 17:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋